Sorry...to hear your view.
But for may game, (I got yesterday), not seeing what you are, You have to adjust you sliders to the style you play. Most likely tone down some, as some people raise the sliders right away.
For me, I am using my NHL13 sliders in NHL14,
Played two games, Legends vs Legends, and All star team vs All star team.
the first game I lost 6 -0. This was before the patches. Had a number of fights and a few power plays. Overall avg 17 minutes in penalties per side. Shot totals within 5 shots - 41 - 36. On Allstar mode.
Biggest complaint was two goals were scored on the one-handed deke from behind the net around the goalie.
The second game was 4-3 loss in overtime (All-star Mode). Shots about even, lots of fights and penalties. About 4 minor for each side, and 6 fights

. I could have had less but I hit Y on every jostling after the whistle. Even had a fight during play...that was nice touch.
The shots were 42 - 39.
I do see the poke check being to easy, but that might be by adjusting the pokecheck slider and the puck control slider to find the sweet spot.
Overall,,the game is good and fun to play....but tha't my two cents.
The next trial will be with Team Canada vs Team USA. If the play is good, then I will try a season in a league.