I think I need to shorten my friend zone...

[Con-Con]

To try to make the background story short. The group of friends I was hanging out with last year (my Junior year) I've known since freshman year since we lived on the same floor (let's just call them A,B, and C). At the time, I didn't know them but so well since the only time I did chill with them was to smoke. Come sophomore year, I wasn't chillin the friends that I hung out with all the time freshman as much just for the simple fact that it was just hard to get up with them at times. No big deal, so eventually I end up hitting A,B and C up to hang and we kicked it for the entire year. I even went up and stayed at A's house for a couple days the summer after. Sounds like normal stuff, right?

Well enter my Junior year and A,B, and C got a house, so you know that was my chill spot for the year. Well, I started to notice that things seemed different hanging with them. Individually, they all seem cool, but when they got together it was like the peanut gallery. All they would do is joke on somebody for ANYTHING, I mean throw insults on topics from what you wearing, to the way you did something or said something a tiny bit off-kilter. In their minds it was all in good fun, and at times it was funny, but this started to get obsessive and annoying. I don't believe this is any different than the year before, but it seem like this go around they were at it on another level. Sometimes it felt that when they threw insults at me, they tried to make it the most heinous out of the other ones for some reason. At the time, I was struggling with school and other stuff, so you can imagine that my confidence was a bit low and they were not helping.

Looking back, some of the stuff they said was stupid and wasn't worth getting sensitive over(something I've improved on in myself), but there were times I felt like they were trying to straight-up play me, and these are my "friends". Needless to say, after one night where they really tried to make me the laughing stock of the room for unsuccessfully trying to talk to this one chick, I had a epiphany that maybe I shouldn't associate myself with A,B, and C so much anymore. I previously had felt I was obligated to show up at their house so they wouldn't think I stayed away from them because of their insults, but realized that I shouldn't be in an environment that I don't feel confortable with and with A,B, and C and their group of friends, it felt like I was back in high school, and I HATED high school.

This coming year they already said they gonna come over my apartment all the time since my roommate is good friends with them too. If that's the case I plan on being as busy as possible so I don't have to be around their antics at all times. I really posted this to see if anyone can relate to this story or had friends you thought were your friends until they showed their true colors.

[Linuxx]

that is why all my friends are digital.... ugh im sad.

[BlueNGold]

Have you tried talking to them individually?

[Con-Con]

Honestly, it's not worth my time and effort with these dudes in particular, because knowing them, they gonna blow it off and poke fun for bringing something like this up. At the same time, after doing a lot of thinking I was probably just taking myself too seriously, and that's never good. Still doesn't change the fact that they act immature and childish a lot of the time.

[shugknight]

Honestly, take it with a grain of salt. I know it's sometimes hard, especially if you have low self esteem, but bro's will be bro's. They're their to make fun of you, and make fun of you some more. The thing that will help is, try to not let it affect you.

If they see that you're affected by their jokes, they'll be more than willing to keep egging you on with the jokes, until you lose it. Instead make fun of them as well. Either than, or accept the joke for what it is.. a joke.

[Gotmadskillzson]

The older you get, the smaller your circle of friends get. Way of life. Some people mature faster then others and some people NEVER mature.

[Whitesox]

Quote: Originally Posted by shugknight

Honestly, take it with a grain of salt. I know it's sometimes hard, especially if you have low self esteem, but bro's will be bro's. They're their to make fun of you, and make fun of you some more. The thing that will help is, try to not let it affect you. If they see that you're affected by their jokes, they'll be more than willing to keep egging you on with the jokes, until you lose it. Instead make fun of them as well. Either than, or accept the joke for what it is.. a joke.

Eh, I disagree with this mentality. If it comes off as malicious, then it needs to stop. Ask them to stop. If they don't, find new friends.

[gez20]

I sort of have friends like that. I'm not sure if you're just a sensitive guy or if they just say really mean-spirited ****. But yeah when I'm with these friends it's non-stop clowning on each other. There might be sometimes where someone goes over the line but I usually shrug that off.

On the other hand I had a friend in high school who would make jokes and stuff but I started to get the feeling he thought he was above me or something. That started to convey itself in his attitude and jokes so that friendship ended up dying.

Ultimately though, if you're with people who make you feel like ***tty about yourself and you're not having any fun, you've gotta ask what the point of that friendship is.