Who's Your Daddy?

[Raiders Army]

If this chick was my adopted sister...

I'd be like Luke Skywalker.

[MrBug708]

I know that Ben Howland is Malik Hairston and Maarty Luenen's Daddy

[Ben E Lou]

I'm not watching it, but SWMBO is in the other room watching, and she is NOT happy. Apparently this show is feeding into a ton of myths.

[Bearcat729]

I still say we get Shawn Kemp his own show just like this

[cthomer5000]

Originally Posted by SkyDog

I'm not watching it, but SWMBO is in the other room watching, and she is NOT happy. Apparently this show is feeding into a ton of myths.

care to elaborate?

[Ben E Lou]

Originally Posted by cthomer5000

care to elaborate?

Sorry, I'd gone to bed by the time you posted this.

Basically, she was commenting that people, particularly the young women who make up a huge majority of the adoptive mother that they work with, have a tendency to look at a situation on television, and never take into account that others' stories may be vastly different than the one story they are dealing with. She said that story was a poster-child for "Why I wouldn't want to place my child for adoption." Apparently, there was little/no mention by the girl of the adoptive family (which is highly unusual, they DID raise her). SWMBO commented that the girl portrayed herself (or television portrayed her) as like an incomplete, lonely, island of a person because of the adoption, while many adoptive children have little/no desire to find/meet their birth parents--even as adults. I've had three close friends over the years who have never known their birth parents, and only one of them had any desire to attempt to locate them, and the reason he wanted to do so was to tell his birth mother "thank you" for not having an abortion and for placing him with a loving family. He didn't "need" to be completed by meeting her. The bottom line of what she was saying is that it presented one very negative story about adoption--one that was pretty uncommon and unrealistic, according to the research she's read--and that the story presented will be remembered by too many girls as "Ah, that's what adoption is all about. I don't want any part in that. I'll either abort, or raise a child I'm not equipped to raise." In the vast majority of cases, the birth mothers go through a *tremendous* sense of guilt and loss about "giving my baby away," and the *ONLY* thing that allows them to make that difficult decision is the overwhelming feeling that it is in the best interests of the child. SWMBO feels pretty certain that what she saw last night will detract from that feeling that adoption is in the best interests of the child (which it usually, but not always, is).

--Ben

[Ragone]

If this woman wasn't reasonably attractive.. do you think she'd even be on this show?

[FBPro]

Originally Posted by Ragone

If this woman wasn't reasonably attractive.. do you think she'd even be on this show?

[spleen1015]

So, did she win or did she pick the wrong dad?

[Raiders Army]

I was playing FOF at the time...wife was watching, but I didn't. Hey, who was the host?

[cthomer5000]

thanks SD, I was just genuinely curious.

[SunDancer]

Originally Posted by Raiders Army

I was playing FOF at the time...wife was watching, but I didn't. Hey, who was the host?

Some British actress who is or was on one of those soaps. I can't remember her name.