How to (successfully) hit on a coworker.

[NobodyHere]

I want some positive vibes here. I'm basically a George Costanza. How does a quirky baldy short guy get a girl? I'm going to assume that Marrisa Tomei is taken.

I will say that my main social circle right now is in certain meetup groups. While there some very fine women in this group I'd rather not mix my exes with this friends group.

Help me FOFC. Help me!

[Carman Bulldog]

Have you tried doing the complete opposite of what you would normally do?

[Mota]

There's been a ton of feedback in these 19 pages that has mostly been ignored, so maybe a reread is in order.

The good news is that despite being a "quirky baldy short guy", you've still managed to date several women during this time, so I have no doubt that you'll have other opportunities.

Make sure you listen to them when they're telling you what they need, and make sure they feel valued and special.

[NobodyHere]

Originally Posted by Carman Bulldog

Have you tried doing the complete opposite of what you would normally do?

Like cocaine?

[Edward64]

When you started this thread, you didn't know much. After 900+ posts (and with FOFC help), it's evident you've been somewhat successful and have scored/home run.

So you know enough to do your own thing. Embrace rejection, plenty of other fish in the ocean. Just remember, plenty of 70+ year old millionaires/billionaires that would give up much of their fortunes to be where you are now (e.g. younger).

[Lathum]

Just pay for it. If god forbid I ever became single again that’s what I would do and I’m not a short balding guy. Dating sounds exhausting.

[Edward64]

Originally Posted by NobodyHere

I still need to do some more research but basically I would expect to fall under medicaid.

I looked this up wondering if it was an option for me. In GA, below are the requirements.

Georgia Pathways to Coverage™ offers Medicaid coverage to Georgians ages 19-64 who have a household income of up to 100% of the Federal Poverty Level (FPL), are not otherwise eligible for traditional Medicaid, and meet the qualifying activities threshold.

To be eligible for Pathways, you may need to demonstrate that you are:

1. A Georgia resident
2. A U.S. citizen or legally residing non-citizen
3. Between 19 and 64 years of age
4. Have a household income of up to 100% of the Federal Poverty Level (FPL)
5. Completing at least 80 hours of qualifying activities per month
6. Don't qualify for any other type of Medicaid.
7. Not incarcerated

Don't know about your state but wouldn't be surprised if there was a similar "qualifying activities per month".

[Edward64]

Originally Posted by Edward64

When you started this thread, you didn't know much. After 900+ posts (and with FOFC help), it's evident you've been somewhat successful and have scored/home run.

So you know enough to do your own thing. Embrace rejection, plenty of other fish in the ocean. Just remember, plenty of 70+ year old millionaires/billionaires that would give up much of their fortunes to be where you are now (e.g. younger).

Nvm, forget my above post.

Check out below link for all you need to know about dating nowadays. Learn something new every day.

What is ‘hypergamy’ — the dating trend 40% of Americans do?

modern “hypergamy” — a form of romantic attraction where one person is drawn to another who has a higher socioeconomic status than themselves, supporting and enhancing their own life.

[Ksyrup]

Is the inverse "prettywomangamy"?

[Edward64]

Originally Posted by Ksyrup

Is the inverse "prettywomangamy"?

Hah. Actually, I think there's no "inverse", it's just "prettywomangamy"

Julia Roberts drawn to Gere?

[Ksyrup]

I was thinking of the high status drawn to low status.

[Edward64]

Originally Posted by Ksyrup

I was thinking of the high status drawn to low status.

Not our Nobody

[Ksyrup]

I wasn't talking about him specifically, just the phenomenon itself. If one way is a thing, surely the opposite has a name too.

[NobodyHere]

Edward?

Are you still selling Asian brides?

Asking for a friend.

[Edward64]

Originally Posted by NobodyHere

Edward?

Are you still selling Asian brides?

Asking for a friend.

No need to buy/sell. Just buy me a beer if it works out.

All you need is your US Passport, get on a local dating board, definitely say you want to have a family some day, and eventually travel (and probably, live) there.

The clincher is, part of this "personal & business transaction (and it is both, don't forget that)" implies you are primarily willing to support her and her family (e.g. parents, siblings), and secondarily, willing to get married and sponsor her for citizenship. That means LeanFire is probably out for the foreseeable future.

Go sign up for "Thai Friendly" or the other country variations. Put your mug out there, if there is mutual interest, plan a trip there. BTW if a super model responds, you know its a scam or another type of business relationship. If it's a normal woman, then see what happens. And remember ... never, ever, and I really mean never, send/give money until you are well into an in-person relationship.

Start reading forums like

Blocked

[Solecismic]

I looked at this thread again. It contains so many references to histories that go back as much as 25 years.

In that sense, it's a bit sad. I think back to where I was back then and wonder where did it all go.

Every day is a new opportunity. But every day we are far too prone to embrace pattern and familiarity.

Originally Posted by NobodyHere

Well I gave her a "Happy Thanksgiving" text on Thursday and I got one back on Friday.

At this point I'm going to troll the local bar of "The Game*" and try to score with the losing team.

*I'm in Toledo which if you didn't know is on the border of Michigan and Ohio. But to be honest I don't know how this is rivalry since tOhio has won every recent game.

This aged well.

Originally Posted by Flasch186

And this thread has gone full circle back to the very beginning

I encourage you to read it yourself

See that when your attitude changed so did your relationships

Start that again

In that sense, this item feels older than its 2 1/2 years. NH has received some great advice. From the wealth of experience accumulated during the course of this experiment. Hopefully he listens.

From my perspective, NH, the next step is recognizing that in the two relationships you've had during this time, you have waited for the woman to break it off, though you were clearly unhappy. Progress will result when you seek a relationship not as a remedy for loneliness, but in anticipation of building an experience or partnership larger than the sum of its parts.

[JonInMiddleGA]

Originally Posted by Solecismic

I looked at this thread again. It contains so many references to histories that go back as much as 25 years.

For all its many flaws, that's the one thing that no other digital location is going to be able to recreate for a lot of us.