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Online dating
I've never used them. I'm not looking too and it would just feel weird for some reason. However, I've always wanted to know if they are successful? Any experiences you want to share (and no, Ashley Madison doesn't count here).
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05-19-2009, 02:58 PM | #2 |
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I met my wife through Yahoo personals. She contacted me and we hit it off immediately. I had been using online dating off and on for well over 7 years till that happened.
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05-19-2009, 02:59 PM | #3 |
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This summer, a buddy of mine will be marrying somebody he met online. Guess it could work.
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05-19-2009, 03:01 PM | #4 |
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Wife and I will have been married 5 years in June off of match.com
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05-19-2009, 03:02 PM | #5 |
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Sorry, no advice from me. Though I did meet one girlfriend that was from an online trivia site on a local ISP. Worked out great until she moved back in with her husband.
I guess depends on where you live would depend on how easy it is to meet women. Probably harder to meet women if you were in Minot North Dakota as opposed to southern California whether or not you were looking online. Good luck man. You should start a dynasty thread.
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05-19-2009, 03:03 PM | #6 |
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I did the Match.com thing many years ago. Back in 2001 or so when it was first starting. I had some success with it. A good friend of mine met a long term girlfriend on Match a few years ago.
I think it's a good way to meet people who have common interests and may potentially workout.
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05-19-2009, 03:16 PM | #7 |
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I met my wife online. The story is in my old "Face the Board" thread, which I imagine is somewhere on the board. It wasn't from a personals site or a dating site, but it was online, so I guess it fits the question asked here. I wasn't online trying to find a woman, but it just happened.
I consider myself lucky because I'm generally afraid of girls.
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05-19-2009, 03:18 PM | #8 |
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Ordered... I mean, met my wife through an online dating site.
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05-19-2009, 03:19 PM | #9 |
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They're afraid of you, too.
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05-19-2009, 03:19 PM | #10 | |
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A link to it is on the FOFC Wiki. Face the Board - FOFC Wiki |
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05-19-2009, 03:20 PM | #11 |
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I figured they were running up to me and stripping out of fear.
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05-19-2009, 03:45 PM | #12 |
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Met my wife Tiffany (Tiphnie here on FOFC) on old school AOL. Married 12 years, three great kids, and have the best marriage.
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05-19-2009, 03:45 PM | #13 |
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I know two couples who met online, one via a MUD (to date the occurrence) and one via an MMO (can't remember which one). Both are happily married.
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05-19-2009, 03:58 PM | #14 |
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My sister-in-law met her current husband online and my wifes deadbeat (did i say that out loud?) dad met his current ex-wife/girlfriend online.
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05-19-2009, 04:14 PM | #15 |
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Met my wife online as well (details in my FTB answers) and we've been married for going on 12 years.
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05-19-2009, 04:15 PM | #16 |
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Pumpy's better than us. He bagged a doctor.
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05-19-2009, 05:51 PM | #17 |
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05-19-2009, 05:58 PM | #18 |
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Oddly enough, I just got married this last august. Where did we meet?
Hotornot.com... ...and yes, I beat those on the first night. count it
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05-19-2009, 06:05 PM | #19 |
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Telle and I met on a EW-TOO style chat system back in 95.
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05-19-2009, 06:39 PM | #20 |
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Online dating isn't much different from regular dating. It is all complete shit.
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05-19-2009, 06:57 PM | #21 |
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I met my girlfriend on slutload.com. Well, she's not really my girlfriend. She's some 4'11" asian girl that does this kind of "vlog" where she receives bukkake at different world landmarks. My three favorite episodes are:
-Eiffel Tower Shower -St. Peter's of Basilicone -"Lemur!? I just met her": A Madagascar Bukkake Experience
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05-19-2009, 07:12 PM | #22 |
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JDate is the quickest path to easy sex ever.
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05-19-2009, 07:20 PM | #23 | |
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Bukkake...the gift that keeps on giving.
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05-19-2009, 07:35 PM | #24 |
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05-19-2009, 07:36 PM | #25 | |
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I just wouldn't know what you say. You meet someone in person, you say hi and just go off the flow of the conversion. What do you say to someone online for the first time, "Hey, wanna poke each other?" |
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05-19-2009, 07:46 PM | #26 |
College Prospect
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Nothing but bad experiences, but its probably close to any other dating scenario (i.e. the hardest part is just saying "hi" for shy folk).
Not as good as meeting in person, but if you are too afraid/unlucky/busy to get into those conversations, and you are on the ugly side (like me!) then I can guarantee you that you can go your whole life without a single opportunity coming around. So if the more remote nature of the internet gets you started it is pretty much a nothing to lose situation (well, ignoring cross dressing 50 year olds pretending to be college coeds for the moment). My bad experiences probably have as much to do with my general incompetence and the insane weirdo women I met than how they were met (internet may make weirdos appear less often then they really appear, they should have a sticker on the internet for that). |
05-19-2009, 07:49 PM | #27 |
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I signed up once, like 5 years ago or so, but never really used it. Sent a few e-mails back and forth, but that was it.
A girl I know married a guy she met off an online dating site however, and they seem pretty happy. *shrug* I think it's a good resource for people who just don't meet a lot of people of the other sex through work or socialising.
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05-19-2009, 07:52 PM | #28 |
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I think it depends on your personality, to be honest. If you're not meeting people in other situations, then it probably makes sense. But otherwise?
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05-19-2009, 08:00 PM | #29 |
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For me, it's far easier to meet people online, since I tend to be extremely shy in-person and a bit of a recluse on top of it.
Heh, even though I swore I'd never do an online relationship again, a situation's arisen where I may well be doing it again and it actually seems like it has potential to go somewhere. In reality, it seems like the success rate/levels of happiness seem to be about the same as that of regular dating methods and I think that's better than the case was even 5-10 years ago as people have gotten more Net-savvy and some of the stigma of online relationships has worn off.
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05-19-2009, 08:13 PM | #30 |
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I did match briefly, me being the epically reclusive introvert I am, just swapped some emails. The majority of the women's profiles read the same to me and nothing really sparked. I am also an alright looking guy(completely undeserving and wasted) and shallow as it may seem most the pics are never enough to get a good read. Good to bad and bad to good.
Guess I just can't get the read online that I can in real life. Which I rely on. |
05-19-2009, 08:14 PM | #31 | |
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I guess, and I haven't read any other postings yet, but are you considering online dating? Or are you asking simply out of curiosity? I have online dated, so has my brother. My experiences varied, but I wasn't really impressed. My brother married a woman from the 'net (match.com) and they're expecting a baby this fall. You'll find all varieties online from yahoo, to match, to eharmony, even craigslist and myspace have dating portions. So the question is, what are you looking for, something serious, something playful, or just testing the waters. If you do decide to join one, make the effort to provide a picture, a good one, and don't go crazy on the description but at least make it something memorable. Lastly, if you do send out notices, expect alot of no responses...and of course, this is also affected by how populated the area is that you live in. Even after all of that, then you have the phonecalls or emails, then the dates...it's work and you have to stay on top. Plus if it's not working out, then you start from scratch again. So I think that while there is a lot to look about e-dating, there is a lot of work to it.
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05-19-2009, 08:14 PM | #32 | |
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Do you think people who go online are only looking for something more serious (not counting the causal sex sites and that)? |
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05-19-2009, 08:17 PM | #33 |
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I think its the same as real life, a mix, depends on the woman. I have a friend who achieved a short term sex frenzy from eHarmony. Not exactly what they are known for.
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05-19-2009, 08:23 PM | #34 | |
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Depends on the site. But I tend to think so with some exceptions, yeah. I think, that the real issue is about where you're own head is and what you're looking for. For me, I tend to do a lot better when I meet someone in person and spend lots of time with them, rather than meet them online. I found especially long distance online (or even if it wasn't) you can get into a situation where you're spending a lot of time talking and theorizing about who each other, rather than actually experiencing it. Not that it has to be that way. It was just my situation...among other reasons. But I think if it's a situation where you just use the internet to widen your base, then it's no different than meeting someone at a bar or at work or whatever, without the awkwardness or whatever. I think, again, it really depends on your personality and maybe your relationship history, more than anything having to do with the platform itself. Last edited by Young Drachma : 05-19-2009 at 09:34 PM. Reason: missing words that provided context |
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05-19-2009, 08:45 PM | #35 | |
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I never understood the whole questions/chemistry thing with eHarmony. Seems like a pain in the ass and a rip-off (I rather just read a description of a person, what they like and don't like, and go from that point). |
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05-19-2009, 08:47 PM | #36 | |
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So would you ever meet them? Seems like you could overcome your physical side more than you could in a bar/club (which I don't think are the greatest places to look for serious relationships in the first place). |
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05-19-2009, 08:52 PM | #37 | |
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My opinion is it's just all marketing BS. But they do ease you into the communication. If you are just not the type to drop emails cold online or you just want to get your feet wet with online dating, it's good for that. |
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05-19-2009, 09:00 PM | #38 |
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I've been married since before Algore invented the internet.
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05-19-2009, 09:33 PM | #39 | |
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I don't meet people in bars/clubs, because I almost never go to them, so it's not really relevant to me at all. I was being abstract and reflective to answer your question, not citing my current situation was all. |
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05-19-2009, 10:39 PM | #40 |
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In college I went on a date with a girl I met on a local Winnipeg IRC channel. It was cool, we had some coffee and then sat outside the place after while she had a smoke in the back lane. Then she said something and I laid out the greatest pick up line of my life: "Huh? Wha?" As I finished the 'wha' she gave me a sweet kiss in that there back lane. That line must have seemed irresistible when mixed in to the lovely back drop of garbage cans and garage doors. Then she went home and we talked on the phone once or twice and I can't recall why it trailed off.
That is my entire online dating experience, and I grade it a solid A.
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05-19-2009, 11:20 PM | #41 |
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One thing I have noticed is expectations seem to be higher on the internet. You get women who are cows expecting nothing less than Adonises and men who are pigs expecting supermodels. In the real world we tend to accept flaws more readily, as in "Well... she's kinda cute, but it would be nice if she didn't have that conjoined twin. Oh, what the hell it's mine for the taking!"
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05-20-2009, 12:36 AM | #42 | |
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Interesting point. One thing I've noticed dating now is that expectations just seem way too high from women. I have some friends who are at the point where they are tired of dating and sort of "leaving the market". |
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05-20-2009, 01:00 AM | #43 |
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I once dated a girl I met online. Had to end the relationship though. Every time I turned on the computer she thought I was cheating on her.
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05-20-2009, 01:44 AM | #44 |
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I once dated a girl I met online at the DMV
/not a true story
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05-20-2009, 03:06 AM | #45 |
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I once dated a girl.
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05-20-2009, 06:54 AM | #46 |
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If I'm not mistaken, Schmidty met his wife through match.com or eharmony.com or something some such.
Never done the online thing, though I keep meaning to. Now that I'm out of school and I didn't find "the one" and it seems highly unlikely I'm going to meet him at work, I don't really know where else to turn to. Alas, every time I think of doing it, something else comes up to distract me. That's it, tomorrow I'm doing it. /tk
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05-20-2009, 07:01 AM | #47 |
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why not today ?
Did it a few months ago, results were meh, might give it another try. |
05-20-2009, 07:02 AM | #48 |
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Tomorrow? It's 8 in the morning, how about today.
I met my wife online as well about 12 years ago, we've been married nearly 11 years.
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05-20-2009, 10:16 AM | #49 |
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Met my fiancee on PlentyOfFish and have two friends who both met their significant others online as well. As has been said, meeting people online is just another method to use nowadays. Some people meet at bars, some at school, some at work, and some online.
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05-20-2009, 11:53 AM | #50 |
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She saw a picture of me that I had posted which was of me dressed as a Marine that was shot in the head for Halloween. She actually messaged me on Yahoo Messenger (since you can do that through the personals) and I was in Vegas at the time. I messaged her back that I was in Vegas and I would get back to her once I got back. So when I got home I talked to her online that night and just about every night after that till she asked me if she could call me. She was very forward, which is funny because my wife isn't a forward person. She just was really interested in this guy with the Halloween picture. |
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