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Join Date: Nov 2013
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How to (successfully) hit on a coworker.
Ok love gurus I need your help.
I'm sick of spending my weekends alone getting depressed watching the Lions lose. I was thinking of inviting one of my coworkers over Friday night or something to watch a movie. Is this a good idea? Bad idea? What movie should I suggest? My initial thought was to have her bring a movie and then screen something of my choosing. I do have a projector (which has roughly a 120" screen) and surround sound. My love life is in your hands FOFC. Give me all the advice you can muster.
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Puyallup, WA
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You usually can't fail with cocky and funny.
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Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: Covington, Ga.
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Tread carefully.
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Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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First date at your pad?
No. Go out somewhere and see if there is chemistry. I'd go have lunch/dinner and then maybe ask about a movie. |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I've generally tried this all my life and has gotten me nothing. I'm short. Women ain't coming to me. I need advice that is more sitcom-ish.
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Join Date: Jun 2003
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Agree with Edward64.
Your place for a first date is a no no. If it is possible, arrange a get together with lots of co-workers at a bar or something. Get a good conversation going with her and then ask if she would like to have lunch or dinner sometime. If coworker get together is a no-go. Then yeah something simple like lunch or coffee would be best. |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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This kind was kind my first idea. I wanted to invite several coworkers together for a game of Euchre (which is a 4 player card game for you non-midwesterners). It had great initial reception but it fell apart at the last minute. The woman I want to date wasn't part of the reason it fell apart. I do have a great excuse to owe her lunch. My coworkers and I went on a kayaking trip where she borrowed some of my sunscreen and she gave me her towel when I cut my ankle up bad and was using the said towel to keep it from getting infected. So in other words I owe her a towel.
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Join Date: Oct 2010
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Your place? Where are you putting her after you carve her up?
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Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Newburgh, NY
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Make sure you know any HR policies regarding workplace romance.
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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It's a small business. The only policy is that it doesn't cause a problem for my boss.
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Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Newburgh, NY
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Well then, get an ugly guy with a long nose to help you write the offer.
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Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Seven miles up
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I would offer advice, since I married my hostess, and we're happily married, but then I think about all the really, really questionable shit I did a long, long time ago, and I think it's best that I back away slowly. Good Luck.
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Pacific
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I married a co-worker. Be honest and be slow. Communication is key.
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Think about something out in the area that you've kind of wanted to do that would be fun or interesting and see if she wants to take it in too. that way if it sucks with her at least you've checked out something cool... ie ax throwing, rage room, distillery, chocolate making, etc and grab a coffee or a drink beforehand and let her know that if you're a jerk or come off as too cocky or funny she can always bail on the ax throwing and you'd still go because its something you've always wanted to try. You're acknowledging that she has a parachute halfway through.
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Join Date: Nov 2000
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My wife asked me out during work but it was a grocery store and we were 19/20 (and it was 30 years ago), so probably not quite same deal.
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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You should see if you can go to her place. Tell her that way you know where she lives and can stop by anytime.
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Join Date: May 2001
Location: Bloodbuzz Ohio
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How long have you worked together? Do you get a sense she might be interested? Do you use dating apps?
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I've worked with her for almost a year. I think she may be interested. I've tried dating apps but with no results.
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Chicago, IL
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Grabbing lunch together is probably the easiest and least troublesome way to do it. Or grab a bite/drink after work.
It's tricky at work because if it goes south, it's just uncomfortable for both. I like to give myself a little plausible deniability on it in case she says no. That way you can play it off as just asking a co-worker to grab something to eat isntead of "asking on a date". |
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Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: The scorched Desert
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I will pile on the first date at your place no way train, that just comes off bad and quite honestly reduces your odds of a favorable response, and makes you come off creepy.
I had superficial relationships with co-workers when I was single, that mostly were like friends with benefits, rather than anything serious, mainly because if you go down the serious path and things go south, work may not be a fun environment for one or both of you. So my advice would be to be patient, be friends and see if there are sparks. Start with lunch, keep it light, listen and be empathetic, crack some jokes and follow her body language. I had a very specific "game plan" for lack of better words for this. I would follow the blueprint above, watch for signs (eye contact, those deep smiles, touching me) that let me know there might be interest. I would then throw signs back, but not too obvious, which nearly always resulted in them making the first move. This puts you in a position, where if things don't work out, you are not the jerk, because she pursued you. Finally, if things do progress, be honest with how you feel and what you want, then enjoy the moments. |
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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Do you ever go to trivia night at a bar? Maybe get a tram of coworkers to go do that.
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Location: Chicago, IL
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Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: Fresno, CA
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See, I read the thread as "How to (successfully) hit a coworker", and it took the above to get me to look at this whole thing in a different and wonderful light. P.S. Though I'll note that my way of reading it was pretty remarkable too. Last edited by Glengoyne : 10-04-2021 at 09:08 PM. |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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On which date do I tell her that I hang around a forum with topics such as "hot child molester"?
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Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: La Mirada, CA
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16 years together, 14 years married. And my wife still just refers to this group as "that football guys forum"
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Join Date: Oct 2004
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This would be a much better thread if you had left "successfully" out of the title.
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Back in Houston!
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My numbers are even above that and it's still the same "the football message board" and she's even met like a half dozen people from here SI
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I'm open to any idea.
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After my day at work, this might be my next thread. (Although it involves a customer and not a coworker)
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Join Date: Jun 2001
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Maybe you can arrange it such that you hit this person in a gallant way to protect her honor. Like maybe yell “SUZY IS NOT A BITCH!” and then you hit him with a haymaker. Or something cool like that. Women eat that stuff up! Last edited by Kodos : 10-06-2021 at 04:25 PM. |
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Join Date: Oct 2005
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Pics?
So when is the big day? |
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Join Date: Jan 2001
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This is definitely the thread I am most excited about seeing updates on right now, so there better be updates!
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Pacific
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I think Nobody here blocked me so I have no advice. But I am following.
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I haven't blocked anyone on FOFC except obvious trolls. But I don't see how rooting for Iowa will help me hit on my coworker.
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Join Date: Jul 2004
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And that is where you are wrong. Rooting for Iowa scored me many a chick. Even one in St. Louis. Just kidding. The St. Louis girl went to Iowa and was a date and I was not in dating mode at that time. We went out once and then I really never heard from her again.
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With some of the people at the place where I work that isn't a far strretch.
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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This has gotten me nowhere in my love life. I need something more bold.
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I will suggest this.
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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By the way, I noticed we have a customer called "Lathum Hardware" in our database. Is this you or is someone getting on on your good name?
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Join Date: Jul 2001
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If you like / care about your job I'd advise to simply not go there and look elsewhere
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Join Date: Sep 2002
Location: Troy, Mo
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My wife of 20 years, our first date was at my apartment watching movies. Of course I had a water bed so I was cool.
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Fairfax, VA
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Get a Super Smash Brothers game cartridge and while holding it ask her to come over and smash. Works everytime.
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Join Date: Sep 2003
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We're a week into this thread and the train wreck hasn't happened yet. Get on it OP.
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Join Date: Sep 2004
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Go with lunch, but make it a picnic lunch. Bonus points if there's blackberries to pick nearby.
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I concur
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Join Date: Oct 2000
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As much as I'd like to see it work out (and/or hilarity ensue), I agree with not going there. And, if you do, wait until you have done friend-type things for a good while before broaching the subject of a date. It's not worth it to potentially make her feel uncomfortable at work.
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