Have you ever cheated on a spouse/long-term other?

Mizzou B-ball fan · 02-28-2008, 11:50 AM

The discussion in the 'Moment of Truth' thread brought this to my head. I'm happily married for nearly 10 years and I honestly would never cheat on my wife, even if I knew she'd never find out. The guilt for following through on such a selfish act would drive me up a wall.

With that said, over half of all marriages end in divorce. Many of those marriages end because people didn't fully get to know each other and dive into marriage long before their ready. I'm curious. Have you ever cheated on a spouse/significant other? Were you ever found out if you did and do you feel guilty or not?

albionmoonlight · 02-28-2008, 11:56 AM

Nope. Not in a "I'm so much more moral than you guys" sort of way. Just never cheated nor wanted to cheat.

Even when I was single, I didn't really go for the flings and one night stands. As the poll question notes--not my style.

albionmoonlight · 02-28-2008, 11:59 AM

dola--

And come on Mizzou BB Fan, we all know the truth. You are really telling us that, over the past few years, you haven't even been tempted to play a little XBOX 360? Not even once? Not even if Sony never found out?

molson · 02-28-2008, 12:00 PM

JimmyWint is in the house

Mizzou B-ball fan · 02-28-2008, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by albionmoonlight

dola--

And come on Mizzou BB Fan, we all know the truth. You are really telling us that, over the past few years, you haven't even been tempted to play a little XBOX 360? Not even once. Not even if Sony never found out?

Well, that's another story and a whole lotta therapy. I'm going to steer clear of that.

Noop · 02-28-2008, 12:03 PM

I have never been married but I have cheated on a former girlfriend. It was toward the end of the relationship where we both knew it was over but still hung around for awhile. It wasn't a one night stand more like a whole summer fling but it helped me get over my ex.

Mizzou B-ball fan · 02-28-2008, 12:04 PM

One other thing......

After watching the first two seasons of 'Big Love' on HBO and seeing what a pain in the ass it can be to keep more than one woman happy, I'm even less inclined to cheat than before, if that's possible.

ThunderingHERD · 02-28-2008, 12:06 PM

What about: "Nope. Never had a good enough offer."?

Dr. Sak · 02-28-2008, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Mizzou B-ball fan

One other thing......

After watching the first two seasons of 'Big Love' on HBO and seeing what a pain in the ass it can be to keep more than one woman happy, I'm even less inclined to cheat than before, if that's possible.

If I am Bill and I have my choice of Margene, Nikki, and Barb...I am keeping all three.

lordscarlet · 02-28-2008, 12:10 PM

I don't think the answers here will reflect America as a whole.

Eaglesfan27 · 02-28-2008, 12:34 PM

I've been tempted once or twice, but I've never cheated. I just couldn't face my wife after doing that even if I knew I would never be caught.

wade moore · 02-28-2008, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

I've been tempted once or twice, but I've never cheated. I just couldn't face my wife after doing that even if I knew I would never be caught.

+1

Noop · 02-28-2008, 12:55 PM

Here is a better question. Who cheats more men or women?

molson · 02-28-2008, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

Here is a better question. Who cheats more men or women?

I would guess women. I think they're better at justifying it in their own minds as being the husband's/boyfriend's fault somehow.

Pumpy Tudors · 02-28-2008, 01:02 PM

I have never cheated on my wife, but I have cheated off my wife on an exam. It was a prostate exam.

welp

Eaglesfan27 · 02-28-2008, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpy Tudors

I have never cheated on my wife, but I have cheated off my wife on an exam. It was a prostate exam.

welp

Did you pass?

Pumpy Tudors · 02-28-2008, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Did you pass?

I passed something, but I'm not exactly sure what it was.

Marc Vaughan · 02-28-2008, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpy Tudors

I have never cheated on my wife, but I have cheated off my wife on an exam. It was a prostate exam.

welp

Class

MJ4H · 02-28-2008, 01:17 PM

There's a class for that test? Dammit

Radii · 02-28-2008, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by molson

I would guess women. I think they're better at justifying it in their own minds as being the husband's/boyfriend's fault somehow.

I'd say a combination of this and simply availability.

As to the original question, I've never cheated on anyone, have been cheated on in at least one relationship and I'm 90% sure in another as well but never found out for sure.

BrianD · 02-28-2008, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by molson

I would guess women. I think they're better at justifying it in their own minds as being the husband's/boyfriend's fault somehow.

I would assume the other way since men seem to be better able to separate the act from the emotion.

I have never cheated nor do I think I ever would. There is a part of me though that wonders what would happen if I got a really good offer...or if I was drunk and got a really good offer. I still don't think that would be enough, but people are fallible...

Edit: I just double-checked with dictionary.com to make sure I spelled 'fallible' right and I see that word is dictionary.com's word of the day. Odd.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 02:43 PM

Wow, reading this thread really shows me how unique my life is. I can't even really comment on the topic as it doesn't relate. I am simply in an extremely happy minority and will stay that way =)

finkenst · 02-28-2008, 02:44 PM

have had the opportunity but no way at all.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 02:44 PM

DOLA: and there is no poll selection that fits my response to this, so I didn't vote.

Honolulu_Blue · 02-28-2008, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by RendeR

Wow, reading this thread really shows me how unique my life is. I can't even really comment on the topic as it doesn't relate. I am simply in an extremely happy minority and will stay that way =)

What? Are you some sort of swinger or something?

Fidatelo · 02-28-2008, 02:57 PM

So basically RendeR has an open relationship. Interesting.

DeToxRox · 02-28-2008, 02:59 PM

I tried this thing called the Stranger once..

Pumpy Tudors · 02-28-2008, 03:02 PM

RendeR did make a mention in another thread about how he was doing something with his girlfriend, and he acknowledged that he's married. So, um, yeah.

Honolulu_Blue · 02-28-2008, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpy Tudors

RendeR did make a mention in another thread about how he was doing something with his girlfriend, and he acknowledged that he's married. So, um, yeah.

Julio Riddols · 02-28-2008, 03:54 PM

I've never been struck with the desire to cheat. I couldn't say for sure what I would do if I was in a lukewarm relationship that wasn't going to go anywhere and was presented the opportunity, but when I am with someone who isn't just on a "trial basis" so to speak, I have rarely found myself with the desire to spend time with anyone but the one I am in a relationship with.

Not to say that I might wander if a once good relationship went sour, but that I might be more likely to be tempted if I am just dating someone casually that I don't see a future with.

Eaglesfan27 · 02-28-2008, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpy Tudors

RendeR did make a mention in another thread about how he was doing something with his girlfriend, and he acknowledged that he's married. So, um, yeah.

Isn't his wife Telle on here, or am I mixing up people?

Maple Leafs · 02-28-2008, 04:08 PM

Render's a Sabres fan. Everybody screws him.

CamEdwards · 02-28-2008, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Isn't his wife Telle on here, or am I mixing up people?

She is. AND I think she's Face the Board eligible.

Pumpy Tudors · 02-28-2008, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Maple Leafs

Render's a Sabres fan. Everybody screws him.

Just damn.

Schmidty · 02-28-2008, 04:40 PM

Not ever, although I doubt anyone can say they haven't at least thought of it on occasion.

Honolulu_Blue · 02-28-2008, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Maple Leafs

Render's a Sabres fan. Everybody screws him.

Classic.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Honolulu_Blue

What? Are you some sort of swinger or something?

No, swinging is gross. Sex without love is a waste.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Fidatelo

So basically RendeR has an open relationship. Interesting.

No, this is not true either.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpy Tudors

RendeR did make a mention in another thread about how he was doing something with his girlfriend, and he acknowledged that he's married. So, um, yeah.

Oh hell, Pumpy saw that..Now I'm screwed. My secret's out.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Honolulu_Blue

I'm lost, why is this image relevant?

Scoobz0202 · 02-28-2008, 05:05 PM

Never have. Never will.

Being unfaithful to me is one of the worst things you can do to a person. It is something that I personally would never want to put somebody through, and something I will not put up with.

Been cheated on once. Cared greatly for the girl. But I just could not be with somebody who has done that to me. And using alcohol as an excuse is one thing that pisses me off even more.

Honolulu_Blue · 02-28-2008, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by RendeR

Wow, reading this thread really shows me how unique my life is. I can't even really comment on the topic as it doesn't relate. I am simply in an extremely happy minority and will stay that way =)

Quote:

Originally Posted by RendeR

DOLA: and there is no poll selection that fits my response to this, so I didn't vote.

Quote:

Originally Posted by RendeR

I'm lost, why is this image relevant?

I was lost first.

You explain, then I explain.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Isn't his wife Telle on here, or am I mixing up people?

Yes, Telle == Mrs. RendeR

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Originally Posted by Maple Leafs

Render's a Sabres fan. Everybody screws him.

Just....ouch man, holy shit. At least we're not from Toronto....

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Originally Posted by CamEdwards

She is. AND I think she's Face the Board eligible.

Doh, now yer just being mean

Though she hasn't been on here much lately, lot of stuff going on for her these days. You could try and get her to answer stuff. No worries on my part.

Groundhog · 02-28-2008, 05:14 PM

Once at the very start of a relationship that ended up bombing anyhow (and hadn't properly started at this point), and another time during a relationship. The later time I didn't even go all the way but still felt horrible enough for months afterwards to not want to do it again.

Alcohol is a terrible thing at times.

CamEdwards · 02-28-2008, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by RendeR

lot of stuff going on for her these days.

Apparently.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by CamEdwards

Apparently.

She's just been really busy since the holidays, me, kids, a charity she is a primary officer of, and probably half a dozen other things on top of a full time job. She's an amazing woman and I'm the luckiest guy to have her for my wife =)

CamEdwards · 02-28-2008, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by RendeR

She's just been really busy since the holidays, me, kids, a charity she is a primary officer of, and probably half a dozen other things on top of a full time job. She's an amazing woman and I'm the luckiest guy to have her for my wife =)

I'm just kidding. Everyone always remarks on how happy my wife and I are to spend time together, so I know what you mean.

Still doesn't mean I don't longingly look at the women wearing knee high boots with skirts however.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by CamEdwards

I'm just kidding. Everyone always remarks on how happy my wife and I are to spend time together, so I know what you mean.

Still doesn't mean I don't longingly look at the women wearing knee high boots with skirts however.

I work as a lab technician (IT) at a tiny private college here in Buffalo, the student body(s) are 75% female and I understand the skirts and boots line ENTIRELY. Good lord who taught these kids how to dress???

Izulde · 02-28-2008, 05:55 PM

Depends on the type of cheating you're talking about.

The act of sleeping with somebody else, not that big a deal.

It's emotional cheating that I won't tolerate.

RendeR · 02-28-2008, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Izulde

Depends on the type of cheating you're talking about.

The act of sleeping with somebody else, not that big a deal.

It's emotional cheating that I won't tolerate.

Now thats a definitely different viewpoint, thank you for saying so.

View Poll Results: Have you ever cheated on a spouse/significant other?
Yes, and I was caught.	5	3.11%
Yes, and they never found out.	14	8.70%
Nope. Not my style.	138	85.71%
Uh, I plead the Trout Amendment and refuse to answer the question.	4	2.48%
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02-28-2008, 11:59 AM	#3
albionmoonlight Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: North Carolina	dola-- And come on Mizzou BB Fan, we all know the truth. You are really telling us that, over the past few years, you haven't even been tempted to play a little XBOX 360? Not even once? Not even if Sony never found out? Last edited by albionmoonlight : 02-28-2008 at 12:01 PM.

02-28-2008, 12:03 PM	#6
Noop Bonafide Seminole Fan Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Miami	I have never been married but I have cheated on a former girlfriend. It was toward the end of the relationship where we both knew it was over but still hung around for awhile. It wasn't a one night stand more like a whole summer fling but it helped me get over my ex. __________________ Subby's favorite woman hater.

02-28-2008, 12:06 PM	#8
ThunderingHERD College Benchwarmer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: North Carolina	What about: "Nope. Never had a good enough offer."? __________________ "I'm losing my edge--to better looking people... with better ideas... and more talent. And who are actually really, really nice." "Everyone's a voyeurist--they're watching me watch them watch me right now."

02-28-2008, 12:10 PM	#10
lordscarlet Pro Starter Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Washington, DC	I don't think the answers here will reflect America as a whole. __________________ Sixteen Colors ANSI/ASCII Art Archive "...the better half of the Moores..." -cthomer5000

02-28-2008, 11:56 AM	#2
albionmoonlight Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: North Carolina	Nope. Not in a "I'm so much more moral than you guys" sort of way. Just never cheated nor wanted to cheat. Even when I was single, I didn't really go for the flings and one night stands. As the poll question notes--not my style.

02-28-2008, 12:00 PM	#4
molson General Manager Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: The Mountains	JimmyWint is in the house

02-28-2008, 12:04 PM	#7
Mizzou B-ball fan General Manager Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Kansas City, MO	One other thing...... After watching the first two seasons of 'Big Love' on HBO and seeing what a pain in the ass it can be to keep more than one woman happy, I'm even less inclined to cheat than before, if that's possible.

02-28-2008, 12:34 PM	#11
Eaglesfan27 Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: New Jersey	I've been tempted once or twice, but I've never cheated. I just couldn't face my wife after doing that even if I knew I would never be caught. __________________ Retired GM of the eNFL 2007 Super Bowl Champion Philadelphia Eagles (19-0 record.) GM of the WOOF 2006 Doggie Bowl Champion Atlantic City Gamblers. GM of the IHOF 2019 and 2022 IHOF Bowl Champion Asheville Axemen.

02-28-2008, 12:55 PM	#13
Noop Bonafide Seminole Fan Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Miami	Here is a better question. Who cheats more men or women? __________________ Subby's favorite woman hater.

02-28-2008, 01:02 PM	#15
Pumpy Tudors Bounty Hunter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Pittsburgh, PA	I have never cheated on my wife, but I have cheated off my wife on an exam. It was a prostate exam. welp __________________ No, I am not Batman, and I will not repair your food processor. Last edited by Pumpy Tudors : 02-28-2008 at 01:02 PM.

02-28-2008, 01:17 PM	#19
MJ4H Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Hog Country	There's a class for that test? Dammit __________________ My YouTube channel My Twitch channel My Sharona Last edited by MJ4H : 02-28-2008 at 01:18 PM.

02-28-2008, 02:43 PM	#22
RendeR Coordinator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Buffalo, NY	Wow, reading this thread really shows me how unique my life is. I can't even really comment on the topic as it doesn't relate. I am simply in an extremely happy minority and will stay that way =) __________________ http://wotlabs.net/s...8/signature.png http://wotlabs.net/sig_dark/na/banichi18/signature.png

02-28-2008, 02:44 PM	#24
RendeR Coordinator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Buffalo, NY	DOLA: and there is no poll selection that fits my response to this, so I didn't vote. __________________ http://wotlabs.net/s...8/signature.png http://wotlabs.net/sig_dark/na/banichi18/signature.png

02-28-2008, 02:57 PM	#26
Fidatelo Pro Starter Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Winnipeg, MB	So basically RendeR has an open relationship. Interesting. __________________ "Breakfast? Breakfast schmekfast, look at the score for God's sake. It's only the second period and I'm winning 12-2. Breakfasts come and go, Rene, but Hartford, the Whale, they only beat Vancouver maybe once or twice in a lifetime."

02-28-2008, 02:59 PM	#27
DeToxRox Head Coach Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Michigan	I tried this thing called the Stranger once..

02-28-2008, 03:02 PM	#28
Pumpy Tudors Bounty Hunter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Pittsburgh, PA	RendeR did make a mention in another thread about how he was doing something with his girlfriend, and he acknowledged that he's married. So, um, yeah. __________________ No, I am not Batman, and I will not repair your food processor.

02-28-2008, 03:54 PM	#30
Julio Riddols College Prospect Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Bryson Shitty, NC	I've never been struck with the desire to cheat. I couldn't say for sure what I would do if I was in a lukewarm relationship that wasn't going to go anywhere and was presented the opportunity, but when I am with someone who isn't just on a "trial basis" so to speak, I have rarely found myself with the desire to spend time with anyone but the one I am in a relationship with. Not to say that I might wander if a once good relationship went sour, but that I might be more likely to be tempted if I am just dating someone casually that I don't see a future with. __________________ Recklessly enthused, stubbornly amused. FUCK EA

02-28-2008, 04:08 PM	#32
Maple Leafs Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002	Render's a Sabres fan. Everybody screws him. __________________ Down Goes Brown: Toronto Maple Leafs Humor and Analysis

02-28-2008, 04:40 PM	#35
Schmidty Coordinator Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Early, TX	Not ever, although I doubt anyone can say they haven't at least thought of it on occasion.

02-28-2008, 05:05 PM	#41
Scoobz0202 Pro Rookie Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Dayton, Ohio	Never have. Never will. Being unfaithful to me is one of the worst things you can do to a person. It is something that I personally would never want to put somebody through, and something I will not put up with. Been cheated on once. Cared greatly for the girl. But I just could not be with somebody who has done that to me. And using alcohol as an excuse is one thing that pisses me off even more.

02-28-2008, 05:14 PM	#44
Groundhog Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Sydney, Australia	Once at the very start of a relationship that ended up bombing anyhow (and hadn't properly started at this point), and another time during a relationship. The later time I didn't even go all the way but still felt horrible enough for months afterwards to not want to do it again. Alcohol is a terrible thing at times. __________________ Politics, n. Strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. --Ambrose Bierce

02-28-2008, 05:55 PM	#49
Izulde Head Coach Join Date: Sep 2004	Depends on the type of cheating you're talking about. The act of sleeping with somebody else, not that big a deal. It's emotional cheating that I won't tolerate. __________________ 2006 Golden Scribe Nominee 2006 Golden Scribe Winner Best Non-Sport Dynasty: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty) Rookie Writer of the Year Dynasty of the Year: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty)

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