Poll : In-law relationships

Mustang · 08-25-2009, 12:56 PM

So, found out today that one of my in-laws might not be too keen on me after 5 years of marriage. If I knew what I did beyond marrying her daughter and taking her away from her (which might be all that is needed) maybe I could correct it, but I have no idea.

My range of emotions has been all over the map, from pure anger, sadness and apathy. I'm pissed because I have no idea what I have done, sad because whatever relationship I thought I might have had has pretty much been blown away and now my wife is in the middle of this and apathy because I've seen this happen before with my Mom and her son and daughter in-laws and I know that there isn't a damn thing that can be done sometimes.

Just curious how everyone's relationships are with their in-laws (and how your spouse is with your parents)

Mizzou B-ball fan · 08-25-2009, 01:08 PM

Had the same issue with my wife's mom. Just understand that she's likely being overprotective more than anything. Try not to take it too personally. Much like my mother-in-law, she's probably one of those types that would never find a person good enough for their daughter. Once I realized it wasn't my fault, it was a whole lot easier to deal with.

Logan · 08-25-2009, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Mizzou B-ball fan

Had the same issue with my wife's mom. Just understand that she's likely being overprotective more than anything. Try not to take it too personally. Much like my mother-in-law, she's probably one of those types that would never find a person good enough for their daughter. Once I realized it wasn't my fault, it was a whole lot easier to deal with.

She probably hates Sony.

(shouldn't kid in a serious thread...)

Most likely she's either just an unhappy person in general, or is jealous of the relationship you and your wife have, if there's a hint of dissatisfaction with her own marriage.

Mizzou B-ball fan · 08-25-2009, 01:25 PM

I'd also note that I got some informal advice from EF27 when I was having the issues. He suggested marriage counseling. Best thing I ever did. Counselor showed us how my wife was unknowingly creating some of the behavior, making the situation worse. It helped both of us understand the situation and deal with it much easier. It also made it much more obvious to everyone else that my wife and I weren't the real problem. We both knew that at the time, but it helped to have a third party give perspective as to what was happening.

Mustang · 08-25-2009, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Logan

Most likely she's either just an unhappy person in general, or is jealous of the relationship you and your wife have, if there's a hint of dissatisfaction with her own marriage.

My wife believes this is the reason. Her mom is divorced from her dad and has remarried a guy that is less than stellar. Still sucks though.

Mizzou B-ball fan · 08-25-2009, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Mustang

My wife believes this is the reason. Her mom is divorced from her dad and has remarried a guy that is less than stellar. Still sucks though.

Wow. Logan FTW.

If this is the case, I think counseling with your wife would provide a great deal of help. They'll teach you coping skills so you and your wife can make sure you're on the same page and have a full understanding of how to deal with uncomfortable situations.

Logan · 08-25-2009, 01:41 PM

Yeah I went through a similar situation with an ex-girlfriend (obviously not as important with the ex part).

I admit to knowing nothing about this sort of thing, but I would think your wife being able to acknowledge the cause of it, as opposed to turning a blind eye, will make it much easier for you guys to deal with it together.

rowech · 08-25-2009, 04:24 PM

Overbearing mothers-in-law are almost always because they hate that you have the better relationship with her daughter. What's worse is when they try and play guilt trips about things on the wife. Yes...I speak from experience.

EagleFan · 08-25-2009, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mustang

My wife believes this is the reason. Her mom is divorced from her dad and has remarried a guy that is less than stellar. Still sucks though.

Misread this the first time through. Read it as:

"Her mom is divorced and her dad has remarried a guy that is less than stellar."

Changes he situation a bit, but still a reason for her mom to not be happy.

clemsonfan · 08-25-2009, 07:56 PM

My mother-in-law really did not like me for about the first 9 years of my marriage. It's just been within the last couple of years that she's decided that she likes me.

SteveMax58 · 08-25-2009, 08:04 PM

Had to choose "No issues with spouse or myself" as...well, that's the truth as far as I know it.

But had there been a "My spouse has a total f-up of a father and her mother is worse" option I would have gone that direction.

But her grandparents are more like her parents anyway...so I kinda went that way with it. They like me from I'm told.

DanGarion · 08-25-2009, 08:23 PM

I suggest your wife's mom get counseling... just kidding.

Schmidty · 08-25-2009, 08:41 PM

Other than them being a little uptight, I have no problem with mine.

Marc Vaughan · 08-25-2009, 09:36 PM

Get on fine with my in-laws personally ...

Lathum · 08-25-2009, 09:38 PM

I wonder if age when you were married has anything to do with it.

My wife and I are very lucky to have great relationships with each others parents. We were married in our early 30's and our parents let us live our lives with zero unwanted advice.

SteveMax58 · 08-25-2009, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DanGarion

I suggest your wife's mom get counseling... just kidding.

I'd tell her tha but she's been MIA for 20+ years.

MrBug708 · 08-25-2009, 10:08 PM

No in-laws, but the gf's parents are a bit out there. Not in a bad way, but in a "place a 6 foot penis statue on their friends front yard during a Christmas party" sort of way

DanGarion · 08-25-2009, 11:38 PM

The only problem I have with my mother in law is she's very stubborn and set in her mind on EVERYTHING. So I tend to butt heads with her when I try to tell her things.

We could be looking at a purple wall that she says is yellow, and no matter you say it doesn't matter, the wall is yellow to her. It bugs me, but I'm just not accustomed to people that stubborn. Other then that she cooks a lot and always invites us over for free home cooked meals, can't really complain about that!

Schmidty · 08-26-2009, 12:15 AM

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Originally Posted by DanGarion

We could be looking at a purple wall that she says is yellow, and no matter you say it doesn't matter, the wall is yellow to her.

Have you ever thought that the wall is actually yellow, and you're the one wrong? Are you the one who can't see the other color?

Just wondering because as great of a guy I know you are, you're pretty stubborn too. Well, on the internet anyway.

DanGarion · 08-26-2009, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Schmidty

Have you ever thought that the wall is actually yellow, and you're the one wrong? Are you the one who can't see the other color?

Just wondering because as great of a guy I know you are, you're pretty stubborn too. Well, on the internet anyway.

Me stubborn? No!

Well let's just say everyone will tell her it's purple and she'll still swear it's yellow.

She's the type of person that hates sour cream until she has something that is made with it and then loves it, but doesn't want to know it's sour cream because then she won't like the food anymore...

clemsonfan · 08-26-2009, 09:54 AM

My mother-in-law will never compliment me on anything I cook. She could have three helpings of what I cook but still claim that it's merely "ok". When my husband asked her about this in private once, she said "Well, I don't want her to get a big head or anything." WTF?

Noop · 08-26-2009, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by DanGarion

She's the type of person that hates sour cream until she has something that is made with it and then loves it, but doesn't want to know it's sour cream because then she won't like the food anymore...

This is a pretty silly question but it has to be asked.... what can you make with Sour Cream? I know potato chips, baked potato and maybe a topping from Taco Bell(I never order it but still)... enlighten me my husky friend.

clemsonfan · 08-26-2009, 10:05 AM

I make this German potato casserole with sour cream in it. I also put sour cream in my mashed potatoes.

Noop · 08-26-2009, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by clemsonfan

I make this German potato casserole with sour cream in it. I also put sour cream in my mashed potatoes.

Seems like potato and sour cream are a perfect match. However outside of the spud what else can it be used for?

Mustang · 08-26-2009, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Noop

Seems like potato and sour cream are a perfect match. However outside of the spud what else can it be used for?

Beef Stroganoff and some cheesecake recipes call for it.

Noop · 08-26-2009, 10:32 AM

Beef Stroganoff looks delicious... I know what I am making for dinner tonight! Okay to get back on topic I am not the mostly popular guy when dealing with a girls parents. Something about the dreadlocks and gold teeth make them think I am a "goon".

Mustang · 08-26-2009, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Noop

Something about the dreadlocks and gold teeth make them thing I am a "goon".

Shouldn't your nick be Noog then?

PackerFanatic · 08-26-2009, 10:50 AM

My wife's aren't too keen of her, so I am not too keen of them. Their relationship has been rocky at best in the 5 years that we have been together, and really hit a breaking point a couple months back (when they didn't tell her that her Grandmother had died - we had to find out through someone on the other side of the family) I will never understand how parents can treat a child like that. We are definitely better off without them.

MacroGuru · 08-26-2009, 11:04 AM

My wife loathes my mother because of how my mom chooses to live her life (nothing wrong with her, claims disability and leeches off the government, I am not a big fan of it either, but she is still my mom)

My in-laws love me...at times more than my wife...but I guess cause I don't do stupid things to piss them off like my wife STILL does.

spleen1015 · 08-26-2009, 12:09 PM

My wife's family didn't like me from day one because I'm not a country bumpkin from where they live. I was an outsider. All of this came to a head when we decided to get married. We had no idea until then. It got so bad that I broke everything off and moved away.

After 3 months of drinking and self loathing, I decided I didn't give a shit. She was the one for me, so I went to her and we got back together. She moved in with me and told her family to stuff it. If they didn't like me it was their problem.

After about a year, they all 'realized' they were wrong about me and we worked things out.

I have a decent relationship with them now, but I don't trust most of them. I am waiting for the day they all turn on me again.

The only one I trust is one of her brothers who openly hated me the whole time until I sent him letters every week while he was in Iraq. He came home and we've been good friends. He's not the type to fake it.

Good luck man. Being in that situation is one of the worst things I have experienced.

MikeVic · 08-26-2009, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

Beef Stroganoff looks delicious... I know what I am making for dinner tonight! Okay to get back on topic I am not the mostly popular guy when dealing with a girls parents. Something about the dreadlocks and gold teeth make them think I am a "goon".

Grillz or actual gold teeth?

SteveMax58 · 08-26-2009, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

This is a pretty silly question but it has to be asked.... what can you make with Sour Cream?

My wife makes one hell of a pretzel dip which uses sour cream...great for football season. Which reminds me...

Noop · 08-26-2009, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeVic

Grillz or actual gold teeth?

Pull outs. I would likely get my ass beat and wake up with my teeth missing if I got permanents in my mouth.

Schmidty · 08-26-2009, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

Pull outs. I would likely get my ass beat and wake up with my teeth missing if I got permanents in my mouth.

I didn't know people actually wore gold teeth anymore. Very classy!!!!

Mizzou B-ball fan · 08-26-2009, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

Pull outs. I would likely get my ass beat and wake up with my teeth missing if I got permanents in my mouth.

pics plz k thx

sterlingice · 08-26-2009, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by EagleFan

Misread this the first time through. Read it as:

"Her mom is divorced and her dad has remarried a guy that is less than stellar."

Changes he situation a bit, but still a reason for her mom to not be happy.

There's some joke here about happy and "gay" with a play on words, but I just can't quite get it right.

SI

sterlingice · 08-26-2009, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by MrBug708

No in-laws, but the gf's parents are a bit out there. Not in a bad way, but in a "place a 6 foot penis statue on their friends front yard during a Christmas party" sort of way

There's a story here that needs to be told...

SI

sterlingice · 08-26-2009, 01:44 PM

We got lucky in that respect. Everyone in my family kept asking my wife, mostly in jest "Are you sure? You can still back out" until the wedding. Her family, on the other hand, seems to like me so it's all good

Then again, we were both honor kid nerds in school- the type most parents like.

SI

DanGarion · 08-26-2009, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

This is a pretty silly question but it has to be asked.... what can you make with Sour Cream? I know potato chips, baked potato and maybe a topping from Taco Bell(I never order it but still)... enlighten me my husky friend.

I'm a Trojans fan, not a Huskies fan...

Dr. Sak · 08-26-2009, 01:58 PM

Cucumber Salad is amazing...and it's made with sour cream.

Sgran · 08-26-2009, 05:28 PM

Here in Central Eastern Europe it's more appropriate to ask what could possibly be served without sour cream. Doesn't matter what it is: bread it, deep fry it, goop on the sour cream.

Wife and I get on smashingly with all 4 parents. Her parents help us immensely with our kids, and my wife actually looks forward to seeing my entire family during our visits.

JonInMiddleGA · 08-26-2009, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by clemsonfan

I make this German potato casserole with sour cream in it. I also put sour cream in my mashed potatoes.

Okay, I know this is waaaay off the topic here but ... a recent article on a new European deli that opened in town mentioned them making a European (Russian? German?) potato salad that included bologna among the ingredients.

That familiar to you at all? And if so, is it as good as it sounded to me?

MrBug708 · 08-26-2009, 07:07 PM

Sour Cream with nearly everything

Lathum · 08-26-2009, 07:30 PM

Sour Cream and strawberries is amazing.

clemsonfan · 08-27-2009, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by JonInMiddleGA

Okay, I know this is waaaay off the topic here but ... a recent article on a new European deli that opened in town mentioned them making a European (Russian? German?) potato salad that included bologna among the ingredients.

That familiar to you at all? And if so, is it as good as it sounded to me?

I've had German potato salad with bologna in it before at a German restaurant. I thought it was ok, but then again I'm not a huge bologna fan.

hhiipp · 08-27-2009, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by spleen1015

My wife's family didn't like me from day one because I'm not a country bumpkin from where they live. I was an outsider. All of this came to a head when we decided to get married. We had no idea until then. It got so bad that I broke everything off and moved away.

After 3 months of drinking and self loathing, I decided I didn't give a shit. She was the one for me, so I went to her and we got back together. She moved in with me and told her family to stuff it. If they didn't like me it was their problem.

After about a year, they all 'realized' they were wrong about me and we worked things out.

I have a decent relationship with them now, but I don't trust most of them. I am waiting for the day they all turn on me again.

The only one I trust is one of her brothers who openly hated me the whole time until I sent him letters every week while he was in Iraq. He came home and we've been good friends. He's not the type to fake it.

Good luck man. Being in that situation is one of the worst things I have experienced.

This sounds like a Pauly Shore movie.

johnnyshaka · 08-27-2009, 02:57 PM

My mother-in-law and I get along very well to the point that she talks to me about stuff she won't even tell her kids. And my wife gets along great with my folks as well, mind you they are on the other side of the country so she's got it pretty easy.

Noop · 08-27-2009, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by DanGarion

I'm a Trojans fan, not a Huskies fan...

You wish.

RainMaker · 08-27-2009, 03:56 PM

I'm not married so this advice is to be taken with a gigantic grain of sale.

But can't you just ignore it? I mean there is nothing out there that demands we get along with everyone. You're marriage is to your wife, not her family. It's great if you can get along with them, but doesn't seem like it should have a major impact on your life if you don't.

Wouldn't a solution just be to kind of keep quiet when around them and just try and get through the ordeal? If there is too much tension and you truly don't feel you are at fault, just tell your wife that it is best that you not go.

To play amateur psychologist for a minute. I've felt there is this sense of jealousy that many people get when their friends or family finds happiness with another. Kind of like that friend of any girl you've dated who never has anything nice to say about you to her behind closed doors. It's the "I'm not really happy with my life and I don't want to see friends happy with theirs" feeling.

wade moore · 08-27-2009, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by RainMaker

I'm not married so this advice is to be taken with a gigantic grain of sale.

But can't you just ignore it? I mean there is nothing out there that demands we get along with everyone. You're marriage is to your wife, not her family. It's great if you can get along with them, but doesn't seem like it should have a major impact on your life if you don't.

Yeah, no offense - but you definitely don't understand.

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08-25-2009, 01:25 PM	#4
Mizzou B-ball fan General Manager Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Kansas City, MO	I'd also note that I got some informal advice from EF27 when I was having the issues. He suggested marriage counseling. Best thing I ever did. Counselor showed us how my wife was unknowingly creating some of the behavior, making the situation worse. It helped both of us understand the situation and deal with it much easier. It also made it much more obvious to everyone else that my wife and I weren't the real problem. We both knew that at the time, but it helped to have a third party give perspective as to what was happening. Last edited by Mizzou B-ball fan : 08-25-2009 at 01:26 PM.

08-25-2009, 08:23 PM	#12
DanGarion Coordinator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Great Northwest	I suggest your wife's mom get counseling... just kidding. __________________ Los Angeles Dodgers Check out the FOFC Groups on Facebook! and Reddit! DON'T REPORT ME BRO! Last edited by DanGarion : 08-25-2009 at 08:23 PM.

08-25-2009, 08:41 PM	#13
Schmidty Coordinator Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Early, TX	Other than them being a little uptight, I have no problem with mine. __________________ Just beat the devil out of it!!! - Bob Ross

08-25-2009, 11:38 PM	#18
DanGarion Coordinator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Great Northwest	The only problem I have with my mother in law is she's very stubborn and set in her mind on EVERYTHING. So I tend to butt heads with her when I try to tell her things. We could be looking at a purple wall that she says is yellow, and no matter you say it doesn't matter, the wall is yellow to her. It bugs me, but I'm just not accustomed to people that stubborn. Other then that she cooks a lot and always invites us over for free home cooked meals, can't really complain about that! __________________ Los Angeles Dodgers Check out the FOFC Groups on Facebook! and Reddit! DON'T REPORT ME BRO!

08-25-2009, 01:08 PM	#2
Mizzou B-ball fan General Manager Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Kansas City, MO	Had the same issue with my wife's mom. Just understand that she's likely being overprotective more than anything. Try not to take it too personally. Much like my mother-in-law, she's probably one of those types that would never find a person good enough for their daughter. Once I realized it wasn't my fault, it was a whole lot easier to deal with.

08-25-2009, 01:41 PM	#7
Logan Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: NYC	Yeah I went through a similar situation with an ex-girlfriend (obviously not as important with the ex part). I admit to knowing nothing about this sort of thing, but I would think your wife being able to acknowledge the cause of it, as opposed to turning a blind eye, will make it much easier for you guys to deal with it together.

08-25-2009, 04:24 PM	#8
rowech Pro Starter Join Date: Feb 2006	Overbearing mothers-in-law are almost always because they hate that you have the better relationship with her daughter. What's worse is when they try and play guilt trips about things on the wife. Yes...I speak from experience.

08-25-2009, 07:56 PM	#10
clemsonfan High School JV Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dayton, OH	My mother-in-law really did not like me for about the first 9 years of my marriage. It's just been within the last couple of years that she's decided that she likes me.

08-25-2009, 08:04 PM	#11
SteveMax58 College Starter Join Date: Dec 2006	Had to choose "No issues with spouse or myself" as...well, that's the truth as far as I know it. But had there been a "My spouse has a total f-up of a father and her mother is worse" option I would have gone that direction. But her grandparents are more like her parents anyway...so I kinda went that way with it. They like me from I'm told.

08-25-2009, 09:36 PM	#14
Marc Vaughan SI Games Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Melbourne, FL	Get on fine with my in-laws personally ...

08-25-2009, 09:38 PM	#15
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	I wonder if age when you were married has anything to do with it. My wife and I are very lucky to have great relationships with each others parents. We were married in our early 30's and our parents let us live our lives with zero unwanted advice.

08-25-2009, 10:08 PM	#17
MrBug708 Head Coach Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Whittier	No in-laws, but the gf's parents are a bit out there. Not in a bad way, but in a "place a 6 foot penis statue on their friends front yard during a Christmas party" sort of way

08-26-2009, 09:54 AM	#21
clemsonfan High School JV Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dayton, OH	My mother-in-law will never compliment me on anything I cook. She could have three helpings of what I cook but still claim that it's merely "ok". When my husband asked her about this in private once, she said "Well, I don't want her to get a big head or anything." WTF?

08-26-2009, 10:05 AM	#23
clemsonfan High School JV Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dayton, OH	I make this German potato casserole with sour cream in it. I also put sour cream in my mashed potatoes.

08-26-2009, 10:32 AM	#26
Noop Bonafide Seminole Fan Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Miami	Beef Stroganoff looks delicious... I know what I am making for dinner tonight! Okay to get back on topic I am not the mostly popular guy when dealing with a girls parents. Something about the dreadlocks and gold teeth make them think I am a "goon". __________________ Subby's favorite woman hater. Last edited by Noop : 08-26-2009 at 11:07 AM.

08-26-2009, 10:50 AM	#28
PackerFanatic Pro Starter Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Appleton, WI	My wife's aren't too keen of her, so I am not too keen of them. Their relationship has been rocky at best in the 5 years that we have been together, and really hit a breaking point a couple months back (when they didn't tell her that her Grandmother had died - we had to find out through someone on the other side of the family) I will never understand how parents can treat a child like that. We are definitely better off without them. __________________ Commissioner of the RNFL

08-26-2009, 11:04 AM	#29
MacroGuru Coordinator Join Date: May 2003 Location: Utah	My wife loathes my mother because of how my mom chooses to live her life (nothing wrong with her, claims disability and leeches off the government, I am not a big fan of it either, but she is still my mom) My in-laws love me...at times more than my wife...but I guess cause I don't do stupid things to piss them off like my wife STILL does. __________________ "forgetting what is in the past, I strive for the future"

08-26-2009, 12:09 PM	#30
spleen1015 Coordinator Join Date: Sep 2003	My wife's family didn't like me from day one because I'm not a country bumpkin from where they live. I was an outsider. All of this came to a head when we decided to get married. We had no idea until then. It got so bad that I broke everything off and moved away. After 3 months of drinking and self loathing, I decided I didn't give a shit. She was the one for me, so I went to her and we got back together. She moved in with me and told her family to stuff it. If they didn't like me it was their problem. After about a year, they all 'realized' they were wrong about me and we worked things out. I have a decent relationship with them now, but I don't trust most of them. I am waiting for the day they all turn on me again. The only one I trust is one of her brothers who openly hated me the whole time until I sent him letters every week while he was in Iraq. He came home and we've been good friends. He's not the type to fake it. Good luck man. Being in that situation is one of the worst things I have experienced. __________________ Why choose failure when success is an option? Last edited by spleen1015 : 08-26-2009 at 12:10 PM.

08-26-2009, 01:44 PM	#38
sterlingice Hall Of Famer Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Back in Houston!	We got lucky in that respect. Everyone in my family kept asking my wife, mostly in jest "Are you sure? You can still back out" until the wedding. Her family, on the other hand, seems to like me so it's all good Then again, we were both honor kid nerds in school- the type most parents like. SI __________________ Houston Hippopotami, III.3: 20th Anniversary Thread - All former HT players are encouraged to check it out! Janos: "Only America could produce an imbecile of your caliber!" Freakazoid: "That's because we make lots of things better than other people!"

08-26-2009, 01:58 PM	#40
Dr. Sak Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Stuck in Yinzerville, PA	Cucumber Salad is amazing...and it's made with sour cream.

08-26-2009, 05:28 PM	#41
Sgran High School Varsity Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Budapest	Here in Central Eastern Europe it's more appropriate to ask what could possibly be served without sour cream. Doesn't matter what it is: bread it, deep fry it, goop on the sour cream. Wife and I get on smashingly with all 4 parents. Her parents help us immensely with our kids, and my wife actually looks forward to seeing my entire family during our visits. __________________ What the hell is Mike Brown diagramming for them during timeouts? Is he like the guy from "Memento" or something? Guys, I just thought of something … what if we ran a high screen for LeBron?

08-26-2009, 07:07 PM	#43
MrBug708 Head Coach Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Whittier	Sour Cream with nearly everything

08-26-2009, 07:30 PM	#44
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	Sour Cream and strawberries is amazing.

08-27-2009, 02:57 PM	#47
johnnyshaka College Benchwarmer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Edmonton, AB	My mother-in-law and I get along very well to the point that she talks to me about stuff she won't even tell her kids. And my wife gets along great with my folks as well, mind you they are on the other side of the country so she's got it pretty easy.

08-27-2009, 03:56 PM	#49
RainMaker Hall Of Famer Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Chicago, IL	I'm not married so this advice is to be taken with a gigantic grain of sale. But can't you just ignore it? I mean there is nothing out there that demands we get along with everyone. You're marriage is to your wife, not her family. It's great if you can get along with them, but doesn't seem like it should have a major impact on your life if you don't. Wouldn't a solution just be to kind of keep quiet when around them and just try and get through the ordeal? If there is too much tension and you truly don't feel you are at fault, just tell your wife that it is best that you not go. To play amateur psychologist for a minute. I've felt there is this sense of jealousy that many people get when their friends or family finds happiness with another. Kind of like that friend of any girl you've dated who never has anything nice to say about you to her behind closed doors. It's the "I'm not really happy with my life and I don't want to see friends happy with theirs" feeling.

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