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Morgado's Favorite Forum Fascist
Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Greensboro, NC
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A scenario that might paint a little better picture about what I do...
I just got an IM that I responded to, and I've read little comments here and there that would indicate that most people on here have, I suspect, an incorrect impression of exactly what I do, and specifically with the kinds of kids I hang out with. The group I lead is not your typical "youth group." We're an outreach organization. We build relationships with kids who have little/no church background or who are just pew-warmers (i.e. mom and/or dad make 'em go, but they have no real interest in faith for themselves). The huge majority of the kids that are involved in my ministry are pretty wild partiers. Most of them are getting drunk every weekend, smoking pot (and sometimes doing harder drugs) regularly, having sex--sometimes unprotected; they're drinking and driving, the whole nine yards. What a lot of people don't realize is that many (maybe even MOST) kids living like that really do have an interest in spiritual matters, God, Christ, etc., but they'd be completely unaccepted by most church youth group kids--and even by many church youth pastors, sadly.
Point being, Bill Venable, for example, was a *VERY* rare kid involved in my organization--a kid who really was serious about his faith and trying to live it out. If you recall the other two deaths of kids I've known in the last couple of years, Hannah (the girl killed in a motorcycle wreck after her boyfriend and several others were down in an industrial park racing...) and Matt (the kid who committed suicide last spring and who had serious drug/alcohol issues before that), they're stories are, quite frankly, much more typical of the kids I know best and who are involved in the ministry that I lead. I'll give you a scenario that I was dealing with just yesterday to better explain the kinds of kids I spend most of my time with. I spent 2-3 hours yesterday afternoon with a guy who just finished his Junior year, who we'll call "Greg." I know Greg very well, well enough to be proactive with him when I hear of big stuff going down with him, so when I heard rumors here and there of a situation that occurred weekend, I called him up and said, "let's get together." When I finally got him to give me what I think is the whole story, I ended up having to explain to Greg why it really was a bad idea for him to help some of his friends--who are sophomore 15 and 16-year-old girls--get away with lying to their parents and going off with some of the seediest college-aged guys I know (one of the two ringleaders of this group of guys, "Darren" has done a good bit of slingin in the past, and probably still is, and the other, "Kevin" is just your basic all-around scumbag). It turns out that on many evenings, Greg and some of his buddies would go pick up these girls at one of their houses, pretending like they were all going to the movies together. (Greg and his buddies are considered to be some of the more-respectable guys within this particular group of kids.) Greg would then meet up with Darren, Kevin, and company. The girls would then go out to college parties with the older guys and their friends (yeah, lovely), while Greg and his buddies would go off to the movies, or go smoke the free/cheap pot they were in all likelihood getting from Darren in return for getting the chicks to them. (That's an assumption I'm making about where Greg gets his weed. Greg has told me that he smokes weed a good bit, and I know that he doesn't have a job. I've heard rumors here and there that some of the middle schoolers I know have gotten weed from Greg, but I can't see him making THAT much of a profit off of them to support as much as he's told me he smokes. Greg probably doesn't know that I know about Darren's source of alternate income, and would never want to be the one that told me about it.) At any rate, at the end of the night, Greg and his buddies would meet up with the girls, who'd been dropped off by Darren, Kevin and company behind an elementary school near their house, then take the girls home. Well, last weekend, it seems that one of the girls, "Anita," got particularly wasted while hanging out with the college guys--so wasted that when she walked into her house, she couldn't hide it from her mom. Her mom asked where she'd been that night. Anita had enough of her faculties to realize that saying "with 'Darren' and 'Kevin'" would have been a *REALLY* bad idea, so she said, "with 'Greg' and them." So now, being older and supposedly more mature, Greg has got himself in just as much of a pickle as Anita, even though he happened to remain cold sober that night. (Greg is one of few of the kids I know well that I'm convinced rarely/never drives while under the influence.) Greg was trying to say, "How can I get the trust back of everybody's parents?" HA!!! It took me at least a half an hour to convince him that he was NOT being a "good friend to them" by helping them hook up with Darren and Kevin's crowd. Once I got him there, he finally came to the conclusion that he was culpable in all of this mess, too. Oh, and by the way, this is the third time that Greg has gotten in residual trouble because of this particular group of girls. He's really much more straight-laced than they are. Oh yes, and how did Anita and her friends get hooked up with these college-aged guys and their buddies to begin with??? You guessed it, boys and girls, both Anita and Darren were on the Colorado trip last summer; Anita had just finished her freshman year in HS, and Darren had just graduated. Darren apparently successfully put the moves on her at some point during the course of the week out there. Ugh.
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Morgado's Favorite Forum Fascist
Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Greensboro, NC
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Pre-emptive comments:
1. No. None of them brought sleeping bags on the Colorado trip, to the elementary school parking lot, or to the movies or college parties. 2. No. None of them is the daughter of our old friend Obtuse Mother. ![]()
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Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Chicagoland
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Interesting. You're doing good work, and we could certainly use more people like you. Thanks for taking the time to explain it all.
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Join Date: Sep 2003
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I respect you for the work you do, SD.
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Join Date: Jul 2001
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...and if you're not respected by a spleen, what's left in life?
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Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: Placerville, CA
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Now I can see why you and SWMBO haven't had kids.
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This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off.
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You forgot: 3. No, I won't provide any pictures.
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Curse you for stealing away the obvious retort! SI
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Colorado
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4. Yes, I blame Colorado's high altitude.
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Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: Michigan
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SD is the guy (albeit black) from that episode of Boy Meets World with "The Centre"
WE WANT SHAWN HUNTER BACK, DAMN YOU!!!!! But in all seriousness, sounds like you're doing a great job and service for Tucker and for sure keep it up. |
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Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Little Rock, AR
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Hey Skydog, so is this kind of like Younglife, or FCA? I participated in both throughout high school, and was going to go on the Younglife annual trip to Colorado but I had a softball tournament instead. When you said the trip to Colorado it got me thinking that maybe what you were doing could be compared to what we call Younglife down home.
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Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Springfield, USA
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What is sad is, Skydog deals with more immature people on this job than his real job.
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Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Buffalo, NY
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I give you props SD, it takes a lot of patience and a lot of heart to make the effort with today's youth that you are doing. Keep up the good works. I am, for my own very personal reasons, a very anti-religion person, but I would like at some point to find a way to work with kids and help them as well. Perhaps once we're settled in Buffalo I can find some places to volunteer.
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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i respect your work BUT
Arent you a bit frustrated, and at wits end. I simply would not handle the "poor" decision making well. I would boot a bunch, tough love them probably, but all in all...I would simply have a hard time dealing with the hypocrisy of saying "christ" on the one hand and then conciously doing exactly the opposite in the other. I dunno...I just wonder if there isn't a better way to get through.
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The reason I couldn't tell if you were talking about Younglife is because you kept talking about hoodlums and drugs and whatnot. In my Younglife we had softball and flag football tournaments, we met every Monday and Thursday and sang different songs and played games. But the majority of the people in my Younglife went to church every Sunday and never touched a drug in their life. It just seems like what you are talking about with your group never came up in my group. |
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I'd rather see one lost sheep get found than see 99 fat sheep get fatter. ![]() Flasch: Most of the kids I'm dealing with make no bones about the fact that they do *not* have a relationship in Christ. They're INTERESTED in finding out more, and a little fascinated by these peculiar leaders who seem to live so differently from them and their parents, but most would say either, "Well, uh, I guess I'm a Christian, because I'm not an atheist or Jewish or Muslim or anything, but it doesn't affect my life or anything." or "No, I'm definitely not a Christian. I believe that there was a Jesus and he was an amazing teacher and maybe even God on earth, but I'm not interested in giving up control of my life to him." Kids in both of the groups above would add, though, something like: "But I enjoy YL because it is fun, upbeat, the leaders really care about us, and we get to learn more about God and Jesus in a way that we can relate to." Studies show that something like 90-95% of American teenagers say they believe that God exists, but that less than 20% of them say that their belief in God has a significant impact on the way they live their lives.
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Okay, but what can you do about getting them to actually embrace their faith. And don't get me wrong Im not trying to minimize what you do by any means, but I think you know how my brain works and my brain just cant grasp this int hem, for some reason. If they go to the church atmosphere and enjoy the "safety" in it, then why can't they grasp more? Why can't they stay clean? If they went to some earth shattering things would it work...like the morgue? prison? etc. I don't know but with my brain and the way it works I'd just like to see some of these kids live it too.
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Couldnt agree more with the tolerance....perhaps you could talk to BUbba ![]()
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That is pretty much my understanding of Christianity as well. |
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I watched that with added interest to see if I knew any of the leaders (Dennis I've heard about but never met him).
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He did that once before, remember?
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