06-10-2014, 08:51 AM | #1401 |
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Don't string her along. If you don't like her, man up and break it off.
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06-10-2014, 09:04 AM | #1402 | |
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Not trying to string her along. Very conscious of that - which was why I was going to say something this last weekend. Didn't think it was fair to her that there was such broad differences in how "into" each other we seemed. That being said...it's only been like...6-7 dates spread over like...2 months. But one thing one of my buddies said did cause me some doubt and make me okay with letting it go a little longer, which is that I've been alone for so long that maybe it's not that she doesn't light my emotional fire, but that my emotional wood is damp. And in that sense I'm okay with giving it a little more leash to see if my wood can dry out and maybe there is potential. But not if she's going to be like that. That smacks of an ultimatum/trying to force me to do something. And DT don't play dat. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 06-10-2014 at 09:16 AM. |
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06-10-2014, 09:45 AM | #1403 |
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If she knows something's up do you blame her for wanting to get you to put it out on the table? If she's more emotionally invested than you, it's likely causing her far more stress.
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06-10-2014, 09:48 AM | #1404 | |
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No - that's true. I can certainly see that, and sympathize, which is why I was going in that direction. But her "just say it!" - based on the fact that we had a good/non-awkward rest of the night Saturday...that wasn't a "just say it's over" - it was a "just say ILY." Just - on two totally different speeds if she thinks I'm like...at that point. And you shouldn't like...put someone on the spot with that and demand it. That's BS. But that just sorta highlights why I was leaning towards backing away - it's not fair to make her wait around and potentially waste her time to see if I get there. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 06-10-2014 at 09:52 AM. |
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06-10-2014, 09:56 AM | #1405 |
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Oh, yeah, pressuring into ILY is irritating. My current GF pulled that crap for a looooong time. If I have to be pressured into saying something, then clearly I don't mean it. Which do you prefer?
Passed that phase. Thankfully she hasn't started pushing the ring. In any case, good to see you doing well out there DT. I was in a very similar situation as you before my current girl, I'm 2+ years in with her now, all is good. I'm just a slow mover. Last edited by jeff061 : 06-10-2014 at 09:57 AM. |
06-10-2014, 10:04 AM | #1406 |
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06-10-2014, 10:04 AM | #1407 | |
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Yah - I'm definitely a slow mover too, which she knows (and has acknowledged). So that's...doubly-annoying. |
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06-10-2014, 11:00 AM | #1408 |
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Question is...has she said it and you have yet to reciprocate the verbal ILY?
Just trying to see where she is at emotionally in this vs where you are at too.
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06-10-2014, 11:36 AM | #1409 | |
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This is my reaction too. My sense is that she's aware that you're not really into her and is asking you to come clean rather than play out the string.
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06-10-2014, 11:59 AM | #1410 |
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I only buy the ILY if she is already saying it to you, DT. If not, it's probably the other thing. Either way, I don't think you should let this hang. You need to deal with it.
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06-10-2014, 12:09 PM | #1411 |
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The real question is, is the sex good. Go from there...
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06-10-2014, 12:31 PM | #1412 |
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06-10-2014, 12:32 PM | #1413 | |
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Fair enough...could be. I don't think it is though - she's all like...talking about plans for things she wants to do and stuff ("oh we should go hang out here. oh we should go to my folks cape house" etc.). I have no plans on letting it hang either way though. Will deal with it in-person this weekend. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 06-10-2014 at 02:14 PM. |
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06-10-2014, 12:32 PM | #1414 |
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06-16-2014, 06:07 PM | #1415 |
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Alright, it's time for me to actually do something about my single-ness. My sister just announced (to family only, so don't say anything on FB on my wall, please) that she's pregnant. Apparently, this was the kick in the butt I needed to stop waiting to "feel better" before getting back out there in the dating world.
At a high level, which sites do people think the best these days? I was on eharmony a few years ago and didn't get any hits...which was moderately depressing, though I didn't stay on it for too long. Days like this I really get annoyed that I didn't find my mate in college like all my friends seemed to. /tk
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06-23-2014, 09:09 PM | #1416 | |
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07-11-2014, 12:41 PM | #1417 | ||
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Some of you might appreciate this.
These are e-mails that a friend of mine received from a guy on eHarmony. This is some of the best stuff I've ever read: Quote:
.......Then, when there was no response..... Quote:
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07-11-2014, 12:55 PM | #1418 |
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"Not sure if it's first date material..." ftmfw
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07-11-2014, 01:05 PM | #1419 |
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The guy is pretty good at coming up with things chicks dig, I just think he needs to keep those plans to himself until he meets the actual girl.
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07-11-2014, 01:40 PM | #1420 |
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Who doesn't love a nice, three-hour rubdown from a strange truck driver?
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07-11-2014, 02:01 PM | #1421 | |
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Nothing says romance like Red Lobster or the Outback. Last edited by Galaxy : 07-11-2014 at 02:03 PM. |
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07-11-2014, 03:05 PM | #1422 |
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Good to know that guy is the competition wow!
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07-11-2014, 03:28 PM | #1423 |
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10 Cheap Date Ideas | The Art of Manliness
It got posted on FB again and I offered better games than Monopoly.
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07-29-2014, 10:48 AM | #1424 |
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Jedikooter Dating Update:
Ugh. I wish I was an asshole sometimes (or depending on who you ask, more of an asshole), it would make decisions so much easier. Met this woman via OKC & we talked for maybe a day and then met on a Friday evening. Plan was to meet somewhere, have a drink, talk, get to know each other, all the usual first meet type stuff. Something comes up, so she says, just meet her at her place and then we'll go out. No biggie to me. When I arrive at her place, she practically jumps on me, not that I mind all that much, but, definitely raises a red flag or two. We go out and she is kind of rude to the wait staff (another red flag), go back to her place and she makes me dinner. Great dinner, since she used to be a chef. We end up doing the pokey pokey and I leave the next morning. Next week, rinse, repeat. So the problem is, she is WWAAAYYYY more into me, than I am into her. To the point where it's really off putting. Another thing is, which I can't for the life of me figure out is, she looks way different in her pictures than she does in real life. Not the pictures she sent me, but, the pictures she has of her and her family that are around her place. They are her no doubt about it, but, in her pictures she's hot, in person....not so much. Anyway, I know I'm being a total shallow typical dude about the looks thing, however... She drinks a lot, she let an 'I love you' slip out once (but it was during sex and I am a bit of tiger, so I can let that one go) and her breath is really bad. She's not overweight, is a hell of damn good cook, is a total geek/gamer, but, I'm just not feeling it, but, since we already did the deed a couple of times, if I tell her I'm just not into it like she is, I don't want to hurt her feelings and make her feel like I used her. However, all my internal instincts are screaming: EJECT, EJECT, EJECT!! End Of Update
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07-29-2014, 11:04 AM | #1425 | |
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Letting someone down easy is hard stuff. But you have to do it. The sooner you do it, the better off you both are. Prolonging it only hooks her in even deeper or gets you further enmeshed with her life.
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07-29-2014, 11:07 AM | #1426 |
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pokey pokey
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07-29-2014, 11:12 AM | #1427 | |
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You are absolutely correct, Chief. I've agonized about it for over a week now and it's not that I'm worried about being seen as a jerk, I just don't want to hurt her feelings. I wish I was a Vulcan.
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07-29-2014, 11:14 AM | #1428 |
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07-29-2014, 11:23 AM | #1429 |
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But that's easier to turn around. |
07-29-2014, 11:29 AM | #1430 |
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In the end, that's what it's all about.
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07-29-2014, 04:44 PM | #1431 |
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07-29-2014, 04:45 PM | #1432 |
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I can see not wanting to hurt her feelings after getting intimate so fast, but I think that's something to think about before the pokey pokey starts. Now that cat's out of the bag, so to speak *ahem* and so you can't really help it.
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07-29-2014, 05:03 PM | #1433 | |
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Can't disagree with you at all. I really only have myself to blame and need to deal with it. Looks like I'll be "moving to Alaska" soon.
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07-29-2014, 09:05 PM | #1434 |
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07-29-2014, 09:25 PM | #1435 | |
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07-29-2014, 09:27 PM | #1436 |
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you guys focus on the pokey pokey line and Im thinking WTF is a tiger in bed? Like, Rawr? I dunno, i think if I said Rawr to my wife she'd say something like, "Cut that shit out."
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07-29-2014, 10:31 PM | #1437 |
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I'm assuming Jedi and woman aren't 18 years old. Usually by their 30's women should able to assume not every sex partner is gonna propose marriage, or even be with them for long periods of time. You are (with good reason) a bit terrified of this woman. Get out before you find out how unhinged this woman really is. Do it nicely, and in person, but do it posthaste
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07-29-2014, 10:31 PM | #1438 |
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07-30-2014, 08:11 AM | #1439 |
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Show them you're a tiger. Show them what you can do!
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This interests me. Can I google it? Quote:
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I was going to say 'Tyrannosaurus Rex', but, didn't want to brag. Quote:
We're old, but, it's the same emotions and feelings you can have at any age. You would think a 40 year old woman would know this, but, I have a feeling (I am a Jedi after all) that she does not. The sooner the better is definitely the way to go with this. Quote:
This man gets it! Quote:
And so does this one.
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07-30-2014, 09:35 AM | #1441 |
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07-30-2014, 09:46 AM | #1442 |
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Ahhh. I need to go back and read through. BRB...
EDIT: And I'm back. Sounds pretty similar to my situation DT. I don't have the same issue with distance (she only lives about 10 minute from me), but, I've only been in person with her 4 or 5 times so far.
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07-30-2014, 10:57 AM | #1443 | |
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Just gotta cut the cord man. Not fun or anything, but it's definitely not going to get any easier, especially if she's that much more into you. |
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08-02-2014, 05:40 PM | #1444 | |
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Welp, looks like everything worked itself out. We are done: Went over to her house last night (we were supposed to go have dinner and see a movie) and she had been drinking, so I drove her car to dinner. We had dinner and she had two long island ice teas and then walked over to the theater to see Guardians of the Galaxy. While we were in line to get some drinks, she was talking very loudly and talking about having sex. Sorry, not my style when out in public. She saw the expression on my face and asked me what was wrong and I said, "You're annoying me". We go in to the movie and about probably 3/4 of the way through the movie, she gets up and leaves. I thought she went to the bathroom but she never came back. As the movie is ending, I get a rapid succession of 4 texts saying that she drove home (stranding me) and that she won't annoy me anymore. So now I have to call my friend to come pick me up, but, his sister has borrowed his car and no one can get a hold of her. I FINALLY get a hold of her and she comes and picks me up. This is all around 1 in the morning. So, I have not bothered to text her back at all or call and she hasn't communicated with me since those 4 texts, which is fine by me. It's funny how things just seem to work themselves out sometimes. WHEW!!!
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08-02-2014, 05:44 PM | #1445 |
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Well that worked out rather...interestingly, but there ya go. Good stuff I guess.
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08-02-2014, 05:44 PM | #1446 |
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Indeed. Definitely not anywhere close to how I imagined it would be, but, problem solved. Quote:
Definitely top 3 break up stories for me for sure. The movie was great, I would definitely see it again.
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08-02-2014, 06:44 PM | #1448 |
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Hopefully you don't get hacked up into little pieces.
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08-02-2014, 07:05 PM | #1449 |
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Me too, but, she doesn't know where I live, so I should be alright.
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08-04-2014, 08:26 AM | #1450 |
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I look forward to hearing about your grizzly murder on some true crime show
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