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#901 |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I want some positive vibes here. I'm basically a George Costanza. How does a quirky baldy short guy get a girl? I'm going to assume that Marrisa Tomei is taken.
I will say that my main social circle right now is in certain meetup groups. While there some very fine women in this group I'd rather not mix my exes with this friends group. Help me FOFC. Help me!
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#902 |
College Benchwarmer
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Canada
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Have you tried doing the complete opposite of what you would normally do?
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#903 |
College Benchwarmer
Join Date: Jan 2001
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There's been a ton of feedback in these 19 pages that has mostly been ignored, so maybe a reread is in order.
The good news is that despite being a "quirky baldy short guy", you've still managed to date several women during this time, so I have no doubt that you'll have other opportunities. Make sure you listen to them when they're telling you what they need, and make sure they feel valued and special. |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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Like cocaine?
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#905 |
Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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When you started this thread, you didn't know much. After 900+ posts (and with FOFC help), it's evident you've been somewhat successful and have scored/home run.
So you know enough to do your own thing. Embrace rejection, plenty of other fish in the ocean. Just remember, plenty of 70+ year old millionaires/billionaires that would give up much of their fortunes to be where you are now (e.g. younger). Last edited by Edward64 : 06-18-2024 at 12:32 AM. |
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#906 |
Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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Just pay for it. If god forbid I ever became single again that’s what I would do and I’m not a short balding guy. Dating sounds exhausting.
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Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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I looked this up wondering if it was an option for me. In GA, below are the requirements. Quote:
Don't know about your state but wouldn't be surprised if there was a similar "qualifying activities per month". |
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#908 | ||
Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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Nvm, forget my above post. Check out below link for all you need to know about dating nowadays. Learn something new every day. What is ‘hypergamy’ — the dating trend 40% of Americans do? Quote:
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#909 |
This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off.
Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: In Absentia
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Is the inverse "prettywomangamy"?
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Join Date: Oct 2005
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This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off.
Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: In Absentia
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I was thinking of the high status drawn to low status.
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Join Date: Oct 2005
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#913 |
This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off.
Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: In Absentia
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I wasn't talking about him specifically, just the phenomenon itself. If one way is a thing, surely the opposite has a name too.
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#914 |
Grizzled Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2013
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Edward?
Are you still selling Asian brides? Asking for a friend.
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#915 | |
Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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No need to buy/sell. Just buy me a beer if it works out. All you need is your US Passport, get on a local dating board, definitely say you want to have a family some day, and eventually travel (and probably, live) there. The clincher is, part of this "personal & business transaction (and it is both, don't forget that)" implies you are primarily willing to support her and her family (e.g. parents, siblings), and secondarily, willing to get married and sponsor her for citizenship. That means LeanFire is probably out for the foreseeable future. Go sign up for "Thai Friendly" or the other country variations. Put your mug out there, if there is mutual interest, plan a trip there. BTW if a super model responds, you know its a scam or another type of business relationship. If it's a normal woman, then see what happens. And remember ... never, ever, and I really mean never, send/give money until you are well into an in-person relationship. Start reading forums like Blocked Last edited by Edward64 : 07-01-2024 at 04:55 AM. |
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Solecismic Software
Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Canton, OH
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I looked at this thread again. It contains so many references to histories that go back as much as 25 years.
In that sense, it's a bit sad. I think back to where I was back then and wonder where did it all go. Every day is a new opportunity. But every day we are far too prone to embrace pattern and familiarity. Quote:
This aged well. Quote:
In that sense, this item feels older than its 2 1/2 years. NH has received some great advice. From the wealth of experience accumulated during the course of this experiment. Hopefully he listens. From my perspective, NH, the next step is recognizing that in the two relationships you've had during this time, you have waited for the woman to break it off, though you were clearly unhappy. Progress will result when you seek a relationship not as a remedy for loneliness, but in anticipation of building an experience or partnership larger than the sum of its parts. |
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Hall Of Famer
Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: Behind Enemy Lines in Athens, GA
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For all its many flaws, that's the one thing that no other digital location is going to be able to recreate for a lot of us.
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#918 |
Grizzled Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2013
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So I went to a pickleball group today.
To be cute I wore a shirt with this design: ![]() No one got the reference. I guess it just isn't my crowd. But I now have the nickname "Pickle Rick"
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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Any way to get around wanting to have a family?
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#920 |
Head Coach
Join Date: Sep 2004
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Hypogamy. Though the meme is trying to change the meaning of the word - hypergamy is the act of marrying up; hypogamy is the act of marrying down. Attraction has nothing to do with it - it’s simply a criterion for a marriage partner (and a quite old one, as it involves the economic considerations of marriage). I’ve noticed in my idle swiping on Bumble to exercise my fingers that I’ve changed from someone willing to consider hypogamy to one who is no longer interested in that. Too many problems and worldview conflicts likely to occur. Hypergamy is still a strategy I’d consider, but only if the circumstances were right.
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#921 |
Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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Sure. IMO the top priority for vast majority of women looking for a foreign partner is financial security for her (and her immediate family). But there are alot of unwed mothers in this category, so that means you'll be eliminating a good % from the pool. Since you obviously aren't Tom Cruise, I'd suggest you stay open to it if/when it comes up and don't eliminate it completely. |
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#922 |
Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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See what money can get you?
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#923 |
Grizzled Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2013
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If somebody asks that question then I probably can't afford it. And honestly I have no idea what that picture is.
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#924 |
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Join Date: Oct 2005
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#925 |
Grizzled Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2013
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So I'm am in negotiations with my ex to see a way forward.
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#926 |
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Were y’all married?
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#927 |
This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off.
Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: In Absentia
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What's the current offer?
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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#929 |
Grizzled Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2013
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I'm offering a 4th round draft pick for her tight end.
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#930 |
Grizzled Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2013
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OK I made a mistake. I tried to get back together with my ex. I knew then that we were incompatible but I was hoping things would change. I was willing to change for a bit (for the better) but she wasnt. But the writing on the wall is there that we're not going to make it.
Ugh. I wasn't exactly never happy with her but I was happier with her than being alone. And yeah I am deathly afraid that I'll never find someone worthwhile to date.
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#931 |
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Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: In Absentia
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When we went to the UK a few months ago on vacation, there was very little watch on TV at night. I ended up watching a couple episodes of a show called First Dates which was set in the UK. I found out they tried it in the US and it only lasted one season. Anyway, watching a bunch of people - even in a reality TV setting - on first dates was unnerving for me. I haven't been on a first date since 1991. I can't imagine.
I found First Dates on the free app Tubi and the wife and I have been watching. Apparently there are a number of other country versions. I think Covid killed the show as it appears to have ended in 2021.
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#932 |
Coordinator
Join Date: May 2002
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Nobody here
Go back to page 1 of this thread and start reading You’re just simply evolving and fear in itself is the enemy Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Head Coach
Join Date: Oct 2005
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You are sounding desperate and that's not a good mindset. Maybe get yourself a friend (aka wingman) to help you think through this. How about a good old SWOT analysis on you/your situation? Strengths = ? Weaknesses = ? Opportunities = ? Threats = ? |
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#934 | |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I won't deny that my mindset is set to desperate. I don't have any close friends and without a girlfriend I feel that nobody wants me. Strengths = I have a median income job (in a low cost of living area). Average Shape Weaknesses = I'm a 5'3 balding guy (basically George Constanza). Average Shape. Need to see if I can lift a 100 pounds over my head. Also not exactly oozing with charm Opportunities = Seemingly limited as I'm looking for women similiar to my age(40) but with no kids. Threats = Scammers and Karens
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#935 |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I did send a message that I was breaking up.
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#936 |
Coordinator
Join Date: May 2002
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Start working out
It’ll change everything Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Join Date: Oct 2005
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Like my stock market commentaries, take below FWIW and some caution ...
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If you are average shape, in the US that means you fall in the 69-74% as being overweight/obese. I'm not sure I'd put average shape as a strength. Quote:
I'm thinking not oozing with charm AND lacking in confidence AND scared of rejection are your biggest weaknesses. But they can be corrected. Quote:
You created opportunities with your walking club. Create or join others. Go join a church; budget friendly fitness place; Fri night weekly D&D session; do volunteer work on weekends; join Tinder; take a class (e.g. I was thinking about taking a Baking program at a community college); take a 4 week trip somewhere etc. Quote:
I'd propose the real threat is you get into a "woe is me" mindset, think "its just so unfair I'm short & balding", and go down a deep hole where, before you know it, you're 55 and still alone. So next steps? I'd propose write down in detail all your weaknesses and ask yourself how to fix them and give yourself a deadline. Just some examples 1) Can you hold a conversation relevant to a woman and make her laugh? Do you do all the talking vs asking & listening? 2) George Constanza is prob overweight and has excess "parts". Do you have the discipline to lose another 10-20 pounds and build muscle? 3) Scared of rejection? Everyone is to a certain extent, I'd say ask 10 women out, and if you get 10 rejections, the 11th won't sting as much 4) Do you have bad hygiene ... teeth are yellow, body odor, nose hair spilling out etc.? 5) Ask a female acquaintance, relative etc. (but not work colleague!) for her honest feedback on you and her suggestions. Ask her what your strengths & weaknesses are Fix & practice all that you can in 6 months, go on your 4 week trip to Mexico/Asia and practice on multitudes of women the same or shorter height. Just my 2 cents. |
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#938 |
This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off.
Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: In Absentia
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Get a dog and take long walks in the park.
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Join Date: Oct 2010
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College Benchwarmer
Join Date: Jan 2001
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I'll agree with much of what Edward said. Work on the things that you can work on, but most of the changes will be from your attitude.
- Get out of the market for a short time and get involved with things. Feel good about yourself. If your life feels good, other people will want to be involved in it. So those hobbies are important. - Don't be balding, shave your head. I did that and it made me look 10 years younger. - Go to the gym for a bit and feel better about yourself. It doesn't mean you need to have a 6 pack, you just have to feel more confident. Maybe dropping 10 lbs makes you feel better about how you look in a t-shirt. That's a good goal. Use a dating app and try and try to go on many dates. Have no expectations of the dates, just have fun. Women can sense desperation and they run far away from that, so overcoming that fear is important. If something comes out of those dates, that's great, but otherwise you're still having fun. And make sure you learn something on every date. A woman just wants to feel like she's special. So figuring out how to make her feel special is half the battle. For one woman, it might be to be wined and dined, or to be someone who's 6'2", and that's not going to be you. Most women just want to feel loved, and to be with someone who makes them feel good about themselves. "I'm enough". That's probably how you want to feel as well. Being a boyfriend / husband is a skill, believe it or not. So practice the skill and you'll get better at it. What did they want from a relationship, and did you provide this to them? And equally important, did they provide it to you? From going through this thread for the last few years, you have definitely gotten some practice, now I think you need to get a bit introspective and figure out what you can learn from each relationship to help you be a better partner for the next one. Every relationship is different, so ideally, finding one where what they want and what you want are very close together, and it won't feel like work. That's a keeper. |
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#941 |
Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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This thread has almost become as cringe as Can you fudge a bank statement,
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#942 |
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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There is wisdom in this. What I am currently doing isn't working and I need to try something different.
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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I am starting to do that. My weight was hovering round 185 and my first goal is to get my weight into "overweight range" which is 170. I am currently below 180. I was in the Air Force and my fitness goal is just to pass their fricken PT test for my current age.
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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Don't make me step-mom your throat.
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