Life sucked thread - Now back on track - Page 2

Young Drachma · 04-23-2011, 09:34 PM

I'm glad things are looking up for you!

JPhillips · 04-23-2011, 09:40 PM

Great to hear.

Chief Rum · 04-23-2011, 10:39 PM

That's just wonderful, BYU. Good luck going forward.

BYU 14 · 04-23-2011, 11:02 PM

Thanks again guys and I have to agree with what she said earlier, this has been one awesome weekend so far.

Lathum, we actually were talking about what you said, looking back and remembering how much this strengthened our bond.....And also working daily to make sure it never weakens again.

Comey · 04-23-2011, 11:11 PM

I've been in your shoes...exact same fit, actually. I suffered (still do, sadly, though I'm marginally better at handling it) from depression for years...and it cost me my marriage. I was in your shoes in October 2004, as my ex temporarily moved out. She wanted to get counseling, which I wouldn't do until 2008...three years after we divorced, and my depression was threatening another relationship.

We gave it six more months, but really, I believed it was going to end, and as a result, probably willed it to happen. That you have had this kind of rebound is great...but don't let up.

I wish you all the best. I wish you to be able to take the path I denied myself.

Flasch186 · 04-23-2011, 11:30 PM

I stayed out of the thread but was reading because there was nothing I could say that wouldve been any better than some of the sage words already posted. However based on the recent turn Ill say: Good stuff.

Ashton Kutcher was doing an interview with Demi the other night and he said the thing about a marriage is that you have to work on it when things are good, not just when theyre bad... So you guys are well on your way.

britrock88 · 04-24-2011, 12:43 AM

Great to hear the latest update. As you mend thing, be sure to seek counseling. It will help you both better understand how you got to where you were a few days ago, and teach/remind you how to restore a thriving relationship.

cougarfreak · 04-24-2011, 06:44 AM

Congrats!

terpkristin · 04-24-2011, 07:38 AM

Glad to hear it, BYU. Baby steps.

/tk

Marc Vaughan · 04-24-2011, 09:17 AM

Really happy to hear things are looking up - take things slow AND expect some bumps along the way.

Marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life and it took a while for me to get my head around that its never 'done' - you never hit a stage where thats it you can relax and just be, you always need to be working at it ...

M GO BLUE!!! · 04-24-2011, 09:42 AM

Glad it's all working out & you're enjoying each other again...

...and glad I didn't chime in with any of my lovely advice, as I'm just one big ball of relationship positivity & all!

JeeberD · 04-24-2011, 09:50 AM

I'm so happy to see your update. Keep at it, brother, I know y'all will do great.

CU Tiger · 04-24-2011, 11:24 AM

Great news...!

Dodgerchick · 04-24-2011, 11:27 AM

Ah, great news! Good luck.

Arles · 04-24-2011, 11:29 AM

congrats!

Joker · 11-14-2011, 08:44 PM

how about a update?

BYU 14 · 11-14-2011, 11:12 PM

Things are still going great, we have returned to a place in time that feels like it did early on in our relationship. Perfect? No. Perfect for us? Yes, and that's all either of us really ever wanted.

The key will continue to be never allowing life to isolate us from each other again, no matter how stressful things get and when one of us has a bad day, instead of taking life out on the other, using the other to put it behind us, and enjoy each other.

Really just simple things that are obvious but seem to get pushed to the back burner too much if you don't work on them.

So in a nutshell.....Life is good

spleen1015 · 11-15-2011, 07:16 AM

This went down when I wasn't coming to board. I'm glad to see that things have worked out for you!

MacroGuru · 11-15-2011, 07:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BYU 14

Things are still going great, we have returned to a place in time that feels like it did early on in our relationship. Perfect? No. Perfect for us? Yes, and that's all either of us really ever wanted.

The key will continue to be never allowing life to isolate us from each other again, no matter how stressful things get and when one of us has a bad day, instead of taking life out on the other, using the other to put it behind us, and enjoy each other.

Really just simple things that are obvious but seem to get pushed to the back burner too much if you don't work on them.

So in a nutshell.....Life is good

Awesome to hear! I am happy for you guys!

JediKooter · 11-15-2011, 10:39 AM

Great update.

04-23-2011, 09:40 PM	#52
JPhillips Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Newburgh, NY	Great to hear. __________________ To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.. - Mr. Rogers

04-23-2011, 10:39 PM	#53
Chief Rum Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Where Hip Hop lives	That's just wonderful, BYU. Good luck going forward. __________________ . . I would rather be wrong...Than live in the shadows of your song...My mind is open wide...And now I'm ready to start...You're not sure...You open the door...And step out into the dark...Now I'm ready.

04-23-2011, 11:11 PM	#55
Comey College Starter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: CT via PA via CA via PA	I've been in your shoes...exact same fit, actually. I suffered (still do, sadly, though I'm marginally better at handling it) from depression for years...and it cost me my marriage. I was in your shoes in October 2004, as my ex temporarily moved out. She wanted to get counseling, which I wouldn't do until 2008...three years after we divorced, and my depression was threatening another relationship. We gave it six more months, but really, I believed it was going to end, and as a result, probably willed it to happen. That you have had this kind of rebound is great...but don't let up. I wish you all the best. I wish you to be able to take the path I denied myself. __________________

04-23-2011, 11:30 PM	#56
Flasch186 Coordinator Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jacksonville, FL	I stayed out of the thread but was reading because there was nothing I could say that wouldve been any better than some of the sage words already posted. However based on the recent turn Ill say: Good stuff. Ashton Kutcher was doing an interview with Demi the other night and he said the thing about a marriage is that you have to work on it when things are good, not just when theyre bad... So you guys are well on your way. __________________ Jacksonville-florida-homes-for-sale Putting a New Spin on Real Estate! ----------------------------------------------------------- Commissioner of the USFL USFL

04-24-2011, 06:44 AM	#58
cougarfreak College Starter Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Out of Grad School Hell :)	Congrats! __________________ “I don’t like the Cubs,” Joey Votto said. “And I’m not going to pat anybody with a Cubs uniform on the back."

04-23-2011, 11:02 PM	#54
BYU 14 Coordinator Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The scorched Desert	Thanks again guys and I have to agree with what she said earlier, this has been one awesome weekend so far. Lathum, we actually were talking about what you said, looking back and remembering how much this strengthened our bond.....And also working daily to make sure it never weakens again.

04-24-2011, 12:43 AM	#57
britrock88 Pro Starter Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Madison, WI	Great to hear the latest update. As you mend thing, be sure to seek counseling. It will help you both better understand how you got to where you were a few days ago, and teach/remind you how to restore a thriving relationship.

04-24-2011, 07:38 AM	#59
terpkristin Grizzled Veteran Join Date: May 2003 Location: Ashburn, VA	Glad to hear it, BYU. Baby steps. /tk __________________ GO TERPS! https://www.flickr.com/photos/terpkristin https://twitter.com/terpkristin

04-24-2011, 09:17 AM	#60
Marc Vaughan SI Games Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Melbourne, FL	Really happy to hear things are looking up - take things slow AND expect some bumps along the way. Marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life and it took a while for me to get my head around that its never 'done' - you never hit a stage where thats it you can relax and just be, you always need to be working at it ...

04-24-2011, 09:42 AM	#61
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	Glad it's all working out & you're enjoying each other again... ...and glad I didn't chime in with any of my lovely advice, as I'm just one big ball of relationship positivity & all!

04-24-2011, 09:50 AM	#62
JeeberD General Manager Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The Town of Flower Mound	I'm so happy to see your update. Keep at it, brother, I know y'all will do great. __________________ UTEP Miners!!! I solemnly swear to never cheer for TO

04-24-2011, 11:24 AM	#63
CU Tiger Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Backwoods, SC	Great news...!

04-24-2011, 11:27 AM	#64
Dodgerchick College Benchwarmer Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Austin, TX	Ah, great news! Good luck.

04-24-2011, 11:29 AM	#65
Arles Grey Dog Software Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Phoenix, AZ by way of Belleville, IL	congrats! __________________ Developer of Bowl Bound College Football http://www.greydogsoftware.com

11-14-2011, 08:44 PM	#66
Joker H.S. Freshman Team Join Date: Mar 2006	how about a update?

11-14-2011, 11:12 PM	#67
BYU 14 Coordinator Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The scorched Desert	Things are still going great, we have returned to a place in time that feels like it did early on in our relationship. Perfect? No. Perfect for us? Yes, and that's all either of us really ever wanted. The key will continue to be never allowing life to isolate us from each other again, no matter how stressful things get and when one of us has a bad day, instead of taking life out on the other, using the other to put it behind us, and enjoy each other. Really just simple things that are obvious but seem to get pushed to the back burner too much if you don't work on them. So in a nutshell.....Life is good Last edited by BYU 14 : 11-14-2011 at 11:12 PM.

11-15-2011, 07:16 AM	#68
spleen1015 Coordinator Join Date: Sep 2003	This went down when I wasn't coming to board. I'm glad to see that things have worked out for you!

11-15-2011, 10:39 AM	#70
JediKooter Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: San Diego via Sausalito via San Jose via San Diego	Great update. __________________ I'm no longer a Chargers fan, they are dead to me Coming this summer to a movie theater near you: The Adventures of Jedikooter: Part 4

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